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Default Sep 20, 2019 at 08:59 PM
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I have a family member who experience traits of borderline personality disorder. I've become concerned about the therapist they are seeing. I understand that people who experience BPD are very easily triggered by abandonment and rejection. So this is where I am a bit concern. Recently their therapist decided to cut the phone calls to one phone call a week. My family member told me that in DBT they allow their clients to ring the therapist when they are distressed that part of the therapy process unlike say CBT therapy. My family member expressed to me how this all started cause they rang three times once! On a Friday due to a panic attacked. They told me they rang 3 times cause they couldnt get hold of their therapist. They explained the process of them ringing. So they call the receptions and the receptions forwards the phone call to them. If they couldn't get hold of them. The phone calls rebounds to the receptions. So that why my family member called 3 times didnt know how to calm down.
The following week they told me their therapist said to them during there session "calling me 3 times a day won't make me call you faster" they try to explain how they thought the receptions didnt foward there message. The therapist explained how they do. How the therapist doesn't work on a Friday which the client didnt know that.
My family member told me that's when they reduced to one phone call. They also told me how their keyworker which technically they are a oppcational therapist told them the week after being told by their therapist of the reduce phone call. That they wont be seeing there keyworker a weekly basis cause they talk too much and dont end up doing anything practical. So they were told to ring the keyworker when they want to work on something. Say - for example anxious to fill out sheets and take the steps to do that. But they were told to leave a message for the keyworker to the receptions not ring and get transfer to the keyworker.
Things have seem got worse for my family member.
They seem more anxious and distressed. Having panic attacks.
Just the past 2 weeks my family member has follow their "rules" to call and leave message but the therapist hasnt called back for the past 2 weeks. Which is causing more distressed for them. They also experience OCD so there OCD gone really bad. They think people who unfollow them on Instagram or Facebook means they've been talk behind their back and thinks those people are cursing them. So they went up doing the OCD ritual of praying to God cause it causing them so much distressed. I spoke to them for a half an hour about how curses are not real. But they wernt convince and had to pray to God.
Is this normal? For what my family member going through? Or the behavior of the therapist?
It seems kind of cut off and dry to reduce the phone call to one! I would of thought personally they would slowly reduce it. Also they have stopped returning the one phone call.
Should my family member seek another therapist? Or a second opinion on the matter?
What's your advice?
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Default Sep 22, 2019 at 04:18 AM
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I think you need to let your family member work this out with their therapist. Even though you care it really is their issue.

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