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My girl friend got a call from a person she owed money to and they said if she doesn't pay they will take her to court which freaked her out. Now all she thinks about is going to jail and then starts going on about dying and needs to die before going too jail. This will go on for hours till something Good comes along like me calling her best friend to have her call her and talk to her about good things to get her mind away from bad.
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Thanks for posting! I always think the best solution for a problem such as this is to resolve it so it won't continue to be a problem... & perhaps grow into an even bigger problem. Of course, you didn't mention if your gf actually does owe this person money &, if so, how much (not specifically... but is it a BIG amount or just a small amount.
The best solution, if your gf does in fact owe the money, would be to simply pay it back if she can. If she can't pay it all back at once, perhaps some kind of payment plan could be worked out. Depending on where your gf lives, sometimes there are not-for-profit organizations that offer financial counseling services that could help with figuring out how to repay what she owes (assuming she does.) Threatening someone with taking them to court often is simply an idle threat. In reality the person who's doing the threatening is simply trying to scare the person they're threatening. They may have no intentions of actually following through nor would they have the wherewithal to actually do it even if they wanted to. Plus, even if your gf were to be taken to court, being sent to jail is probably not something that would happen. So your gf may, in reality, not have much to worry about. But of course that's "cold comfort", so to speak, when her anxiety level has been pushed through the roof by this prospect of being taken to court. Based on what you wrote, it sounds as though your gf may be struggling with anxiety in general. And this threat of being taken to court is, perhaps, just one instance of something that has pushed the anxiety she probably experiences day-to-day over the edge. So, at least from my perspective, it would seem as though there may be two things that need to happen here. One is that some action needs to occur to resolve this threat of being taken to court. And the second is to address what is, perhaps, an underlying anxiety disorder possibly by working with a counselor or mental health therapist to learn ways to cope with generalized anxiety. Having your gf's best friend call your gf & tell her about all of the good things in her life is certainly one way of easing her anxiety temporarily. But it's not a permanent solution either to her fear of being taken to court or to the struggle she's having with anxiety in general. __________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
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She owes this 400 dollars to a furniture store. This has happen three times now. She will finance furniture and keep it for a week and then not want it and want the store to take back. She had in the past two furniture stores give up trying to get her to pay because of her mood swings and they let her keep the furniture and she gets where she gives it away so she doesn't look at it. This last furniture store took the furniture back plus wanted 400 in restocking fees . In her mind she doesn't owe them any money so now she is getting threats from them. This last store before she bought I told them about her mood swings and bi-polar but they didn't care.
She in the past bought a new car and never paid a dime toward it. The dealer had it repo because of no payment. |
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