Looking for Advice

Hello everyone! So this is my very first post, bare with me haha. I'm honestly looking for help because I feel quite helpless, and it's not quite about me.

I've met this wonderful friend online long ago, and we've been more than best friends. Lately, her thoughts/anxiety/perception of life or whatever u wanna call have been odd.

Here's a bit about her just to give u some insight she moved at young age. Her parents got divorce at that time, and she really lacked affection/attention. Her mother was working 24.7 just to sustain the kids, and her father did not give a ****. Safe to say that she did not have the best of childhoods. She also witnessed her father passing away which was a big shock, and I feel like that memory still affects her from time to time.

She was also raped at age of 15, had an abusive relationship at 18. Weed and Alcohol became slowly part of her life, I guess they were helping her survive all after all the misery and traumas she's been through.

Fast forward a few years, she meets prince charming, and things go great, but it was a LDR, so you guys can guess where things end up going. They date for a year barely seeing each other monthly, and her bf was supposed to move to be with her for good, but that did not happen, and he pretty much gave up on her. That was I guess the last emotional hit that completely destroyed her. She led a hectic life afterwards, including the abuse of drugs/alcohol. Things stayed like that for more than 6 months, but with my constant help, and after her meeting up with some good friends, she kinda stabilized?

Here is where I'm completely lost. I thought that she started to get herself together and quit drugs (not weed tho). Right now, based on what she describes to me at times, she has really bad anxiety, and she will have really negative thoughts/suicidal thoughts, she would feel like she wants to give up on life. That's why what she does is always keep herself busy (was it music/weed/alcohol/reading etc ...), and that kinda refrains her from going down that hole.

She sought medical help twice, and it never really helped at all. It just feels to me that she really gave up on life, doesn't seem like she really enjoys anything anymore. Sometimes for me it does make sense, going through all that went through will definitely leave an impact, but at some point life goes on and you can't stay in the past, regardless of how atrocious it was.

Pep talk really doesn't do much for her, so most of our conversations are mainly just laughing about stuff lmao.

I apologize for the long post, sorry if I didn't make much sense, but yeah I just have no answer to what she is going through. I'm a very motivational and positive person overall, but I just can't get through her.

Thanks for reading and I appreciate any sort of help/advice.

Hello dehumanization: I'm afraid I don't really have anything in the way of useful suggestions for you. It sounds like you & this woman remain on-line friends. And, under those circumstances especially, I'm not sure what you could do beyond letting her know you care about her & you're available to converse whenever she feels so inclined. (Perhaps other PC members will have suggestions they can share.) I noticed, however, that this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to Psych Central. I hope you find PC to be of benefit.