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Exclamation May 08, 2018 at 07:58 PM
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My partner tried to take his own life several weeks back and was admitted against his wishes to hospital for his own safety, but the Dr stopped all his medication dead. Since then I have been enduring hours of verbal abuse on an almost daily basis. He keeps telling me that it's my fault he is so miserable that I am controlling and that he has every right to scream and shout at me. He keeps threatening to throw me out and has come very close on one occasion, it has gotten so bad that the EMTs and police that came out when he was in crisis were advising me to leave him in their opinions he's trying to break me. Then nurses in the emergency room told me that they had been spoken to by several members of the public who had heard how he was speaking to me that they had real concerns for me and my safety. I don't know how much more I can cope with

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Smile May 13, 2018 at 02:31 PM
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It's been a few days since you posted this. Perhaps, since then, there has been some resolution? I hope so. However, from what you wrote, it sounds to me as though you really do need to get out if haven't already. My personal opinion would be there is nothing you can do to have a positive impact on this situation. And by staying you may simply be continuing to put yourself at risk. I hope you're okay.

Here's a link to an article, from PsychCentral's archives that may be of interest:

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/welln...tner-with-bpd/

I wish you well...

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Things haven't really improved any, unfortunately he seems to be spiralling out of control and we simply don't have any glimmer of him receiving help in the near future. He is constantly raging with anger and frustration and as I am the only one here I cop the lot. Every day he's screaming at me telling me what a terrible person I am

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I’m so terribly sorry. I agree with Skeezyks that it might be best for you to get away from the situation. It sounds risky to your own well being and safety. One person can only take so much. 😕
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What keeps you staying?
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Run. Save yourself. If he threatens harm to himself, call 911.
I have a step daughter with BPD and DID: I don't believe it gets any better on its own.
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What keeps you staying?
He is like Jekyll and Hyde, when it's good he's loving, caring and my best friend but there is always that flip side which is nothing short of hell.

I have spent so long in this relationship and if it ends I'll loose everything from the roof over my head to my furbabies.

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Run. Save yourself. If he threatens harm to himself, call 911.
I have a step daughter with BPD and DID: I don't believe it gets any better on its own.
I have called the police several times, they really try and help but we end up back here again and again

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My partner tried to take his own life several weeks back and was admitted against his wishes to hospital for his own safety, but the Dr stopped all his medication dead. Since then I have been enduring hours of verbal abuse on an almost daily basis. He keeps telling me that it's my fault he is so miserable that I am controlling and that he has every right to scream and shout at me. He keeps threatening to throw me out and has come very close on one occasion, it has gotten so bad that the EMTs and police that came out when he was in crisis were advising me to leave him in their opinions he's trying to break me. Then nurses in the emergency room told me that they had been spoken to by several members of the public who had heard how he was speaking to me that they had real concerns for me and my safety. I don't know how much more I can cope with
I know exactly what you're going through. I also have a verbally, emotional, sometimes physical, bipolar spouse. It totally drains me. Please be safe and take care of yourself.
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Default Sep 16, 2018 at 05:39 PM
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I caught him sending sexual messages to a 25yr old when he assumed I was asleep in the bed next to him. I lay and read the messages as long as I could hold back the tears and then sat up and asked if he was enjoying chatting to some young girl. He tried to fob me off to start with until I told him I had been awake reading the messages, I then grab a pillow and blanket and headed down to the sofa mumbling something about being unable to get comfortable. By the time I got downstairs he had texted asking if he'd upset me for once I didn't sugar coat it I was honest telling him that he has hurt me. Instead of apologising he came up with some excuse and said he'd avoid it in the future. According to him despite sharing a bed, going on holiday, booking future holidays and telling me that he loves me we aren't actually in a relationship

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Are you afraid to leave him because you don't have any income on your own? Do you have relatives you can stay with? Or maybe a women's shelter? I really think that for your own safety you need to get away from him.
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Default Sep 16, 2018 at 06:55 PM
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I have been with him for a long time if I leave him I would lose the roof over my head, everything I have worked for. I've already lost my social life ect

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Default Mar 25, 2019 at 09:14 AM
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@Bpd partner I see your posts are from long time ago but I am new to this forum. I Have came here specifically to ask help for this. I am desperate.... I would like to know if meanwhile you overcame it and how....I am myself in a very dark place now... because of it.
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Default Mar 31, 2019 at 05:32 PM
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@ Alexa Creata

I am still with my partner, we eventually got him back onto meds but he's suffering from what is of yet undiagnosed PTSD. He still goes off like a volcano of boiling venom and I have been thrown out of the house more times than I care to remember. I am regularly told that he hates me and other less than flattering names. BUT there are days when he holds me and tells me that he loves me etc.

If your situation is similar you probably have many people telling you to leave but that is your decision, don't let anyone force you into doing something that isn't right for you

Feel free to PM me if you need someone to listen

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