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Default Jan 08, 2019 at 04:03 PM
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Yes, I understand. It can be really hard to leave a relationship. It can also be hard to stay in one. We humans are a messy bunch! Peace and healing energy to you Zehm with whatever you choose
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Default Jan 09, 2019 at 05:17 AM
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If that is an actual conversation then she needs to go!

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Default Jan 09, 2019 at 11:48 AM
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Most of the times, things that happen in a couple have to do with the two parties dynamic. So, it’s up to a point normal that we can also contribute and worsen things bc of our own issues.
I’m sure most of people, say things in the heat of the moment that then, they regret.
Of course, it’s a boundary that never had to be crossed but that’s why taking responsibility and learning do exist.

Found that video about leaving a person with bpd. I don’t see the bpd person as a responsible perse. I think it depends on how her/his disorder let her/him to work on the struggles and being more functional.
So, yes, the video is about leaving someone with bpd but for me it can be spread to any person you can have a toxic relationship with.

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Default Mar 25, 2019 at 09:30 AM
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I know it. I’m pretty much alike her. That’s why I asked you if she somehow was noticing the bad of her behaviour and somewhat working on it. If not, go away. It’s the best you can do for you, and I’m gonna tell you, even for her...if there would be a hope for her to notice how she has to overcome her issues.
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I am reading everything that has to do with BPD now and all experiences from other people. My loved one is like this, I find so much similarities.... It really really catches my attention something you said " asked you if she somehow was noticing the bad of her behaviour and somewhat working on it. If not, go away. It’s the best you can do for you, and I’m gonna tell you, even for her..."

My loved one is not aware and as much as I repeat to him he needs to ask for help he doesn't. He just mention after the crisis how evil he is and horrible and goes into this never ending circle of being violent and than torturing himself with guilt.... but he refuses to get out of this ..... I am such a mean and dangerous person even if I told him he is not just mean =, there is something deep underneath there.
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