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Has anyone experienced the narcissistic stare?
https://narcsite.com/2017/01/07/the-stare-2/ It's incredibly creepy. This would happen especially when I avoid being isolated by her and sit close to other people. I've gone almost-no-contact with this person (no more calls, texts, emails) but have no choice in bumping into her from time to time. I try to stay at a distance and busy myself talking to other people so I would never be alone with her, but when I turn around, I find her staring. How do you handle it? You can't control her actions but how do you not let it bother you when you get that creepy feeling of being watched? |
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It's terrible to know that someone has it in for you and that it's not a situation where you can work it out. It's tough to know what to do. You try to avoid the situation, but if you can't...
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Is this a legit thing? or just a theory? Do you know if the person who stared at you has an actual personality disorder like narcissim?
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Regarding the person who actually stares at me, I am not talking about a third party in theory. This is the person who emotionally abused me for years, so yes, this is a narcissist I know personally. In other words, I didn't jump to a conclusion that she is a narcissist just because she was staring at me. It would not be reasonable for anyone to isolate one symptom and jump to a conclusion. Sometimes, it takes years of seeing the patterns to know a person. So in my case, the person I know to be a narcissist, was staring at me. I've been advised to build a stronger internal wall so I don't let it bother me. It's easier said than done. Sarah, what would you do in my situation to not let something like this bother you? I know some people have thicker skins but I am not quite there yet, so please be gracious in your response. Last edited by Anonymous43949; Jan 12, 2019 at 02:54 PM.. Reason: add smile |
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Thanks Sarah! You are right, she is just a human. That realization is absolutely powerful and liberating because sometimes victims (including, and especially myself) act as their abusers are gods with some kind of special powers. They may have hypnotic powers but it's not like they can make the lightening fall on me if I were to say "No" or stare back.
Now what my counselor have been saying all along is finally sinking in: "What's the worst she could do to you? So what if she retaliates and spread rumors about you. If some mutual friends believe her and side with her, were they really worthy to be your friends in the first place?" |
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