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I do get down on myself from time to time for not being able to "keep it together"(I attempted suicide once, and spent some time in a psych ward on 2 occasions).

But, when I consider respected figures both current and historical, it becomes apparent that humans in general have a hard time being consistently rational.

Ghandi, Tolstoy and Mark Twain (he saw himself as curmudgeonly and made poor business decisions) come to mind, as well as numerous successful actors like Robin Williams. I also know of 2 pastors in a nearby town who basically flipped out and made the news.

Anyone else think along these lines?
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i always talk about myself in a flippant manner. referrring to myself as "totally crazy" "been in the loony bin". i sometimes shame myself for being so derogatory. it is deflamatory to the mentally ill, but for me, it takes away the seriousness of my illness for me. i have to joke about it or it is too overwhelming to handle.
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it becomes apparent that humans in general have a hard time being consistently rational - they certainly do, but that is the way of it, and there is nothing to be done except smile and move on.
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Another funny way to comfort myself goes along these lines (I've become interested in philosophy over the last few years).

In philosophy there is a concept known as possible worlds.
It's used in modal logic.
David Lewis went a step further and suggested that possible worlds might actually exist. (Even physicists have hypothesized about the multiverse).

In theory, when an agent (a person) makes a choice, our universe becomes split into many more universes, each of them containing a different "me" who makes a specific different choice. (like I want to go to college... in each world, a different me attends a different college).
Lewis made this argument (at least according to a friend of mine who is a philosophy professor): if there are many "me's" out there, then perhaps, if I am a moral person, I ought to sometimes do things which cause me pain, knowing that if I'm performing the action that causes pain, then the other me's are not experiencing that pain (because in those other worlds they would be doing something else).
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Here's another funny way to comfort myself. There are those who have (the ancient Stoics, for example) and who do believe (Indian religions) that the universe will be recreated , and has been recreated many times. (check out eternal recurrence).

I imagine it could be the case that this is happening, and upon every iteration, things are getting just a little bit better.
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Shakespeare--All good thoughts.

I agree that many times people end up making bad choices for all sorts of reasons. Including so many unconscious choices programmed into us genetically or learned at such a very young age that we have no recollection/words for the emotions that are easily triggered within. Whenever we make good choices--we are making the world better for us and all we effect. But no one makes good choices all of the time. Even when we think we are doing what is right--we sometimes find out later that what seemed so right was Oh so wrong! The world works in mysterious ways. People can get caught up in events.

I consider my attempt a tragedy--many factors came together that caused me to be lost (caught up in my emotions, believing misguided things, etc.). We all have a breaking point. We all need to feel loved. We all need a certain amount of security. There are a few who may have been born with a "screw" loose (like a sociopath that was torturing pets at a very young age) but most of us do pretty well if we have enough love and security. We deserve second chances. We should never give up on people who have attempted or been committed. An attempt or episode does not have to define us. Think of all the "good" days we have had in our lives as well.....
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The alternative branching out of every decision we make shooting off into multi alternate realities, to me, seems infinitely impossible.

There would be an unlimited amount of "other" selfs.

I believe that we are on this earth for a short time. And while it is nice and comforting thinking there is nothing afterlife think about this...

Where were we before we were born?

If there is an afterlife, surely there must be a pre-life. What would that even be explained as?

Death - easy. Heaven or Hell, or exploring the universe as a wandering spirit or reincarnation - which does solve the pre-life dilemma, but at some point you would have to be a new soul.

The population of the earth is about 8 billion now. There were not 8 billion people A.D.

So I'm "taking my time on my ride" (twenty one pilots).

Life is to be enjoyed. Life is to be lived.

We are all dealing with some serious pain and illness, but we have to take a step back and realize - this is all we get.

You need to try your best to make the most of your life... nay, it is essential.

Even in the worse situations, there is a glimmer of light. Grab onto that glimmer and pull yourself to a better place.
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Grab onto that glimmer of light... I like it.
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Here's another concept I came across in philosophy.

The idea is this: For all I know, any "terrible thing" ("painful thing", "undesirable thing") that happened to me was the best thing that could have happened. Why? There is the possibility that it caused me/will cause me to change in ways that result in my becoming a better person.
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I've known about this for a while, but it never made sense to me.. until now. From Psychology Today.

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Don't Take It Personally

Even if you're pretty sure it's personal

You can also use cognitive reappraisal to reinterpret others' behavior toward you. You just make up a little tale about them that involves a less ego-trashing reason for whatever they're doing. Say somebody hasn't responded to your email. Tell yourself that they're probably slammed at work and really tired, not really tired of you. Picture them in a disaster movie, heroically fighting an onslaught of paper and flying file folders in a paper-clip hailstorm.
Of course, you are well aware that you just made up that "slammed at work/really tired" explanation; you can't know for sure whether it's the actual reason. Fortunately, that doesn't seem to matter. Energywise, like suburban McMansions, our brains are expensive to run. Psychologist Daniel Kahneman explains that the brain likes to take shortcuts whenever it can—going on autopilot instead of going to the trouble of thinking everything out. Or, put another way, our lazy-slob brains are suckers for a story, and once you give yours one that's at all plausible, it'll go with it and screw the fact checking.
Most helpfully, providing yourself with a less degrading explanation for somebody's behavior could keep you from prematurely dashing off some resentypants follow-up: "Can't even spare that precious two minutes while you're on the f*cking john to email me back?" That's important, because you'll really feel like an asshole if you get the reply that a journalist friend of mine eventually sent to an obnoxiously persistent publicist: "Sorry I didn't respond to your pitch; I was in a coma."
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