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Old 06-08-2018, 11:21 AM #1
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I just recently left my verbally abusive partner. He has admitted to me that when his prior ex left him, he experienced persecutory delusions and that he thought people were trying to rob from him.

I left, and told him I was returning to taking my anxiety medication to treat my anxiety and depression and was tired of being verbally berated constantly.

Well, this morning I got some text messages from him basically stating that he needed pills too (he would mock me for them etc.). Then, I got a text saying that regarding him smoking pot to chill and relax.

I sent him the screen shots and he swears he never sent them. The next thing I know he is sending me a screen shot of a police detective's card saying he went to the police and they are sending his phone to the FBI. He tells me he believes he knew who did it, and that someone was reading the texts and interjecting in the conversation.

While I know hacking is possible, and my facebook had it's password recently changed I am wondering if me telling him about that caused him to lean towards this. He has had periods where he tells me I said things I never said, delusions of me cheating, and black out episodes where he will berate me and deny it ever happened.

I am a little concerned by this entire thing and not sure how to take it.
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Default Re: Did I cause a psychotic break?

I am glad you're out of danger.


Since he himself claimed to have delusional disorder (it's not always possible to identify it by yourself), and scorned you for having mental health issues; it seems he might have something other than delusional disorder (may be a narcissistic, or an antisocial) and I suggest you to possibly seek legal help (from a police officer) when he tries to harass you or abuse you.


It's not impossible that some cybercriminal is trying to have him persecuted, or trying to ruin his life, but it's unlikely unless he made someone with a degree in Computer Science Engineering mad for reasons he didn't tell you. Or he could have blacked out, or he is just gaslighting you (this makes me nervous.)


I suggest you to go to the local police department and verify his claims. If they aren't true, he will get what he deserves. I suspect you're in danger because of him.


Edit : I have a fair knowledge of computers and I advice you to follow Malwarebytes blog to make yourself familiar with cyber security (by following the news and reading good practices). Again it's not impossible someone is eavesdropping you, but I think it's highly unlikely unless he was involved in illegal activities.
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He admitted to having these things, but he didn't take them particularly seriously or identify them as a "delusional disorder". I just labelled what he told me he had experienced as such.

He has no one with a computer science degree. Either the messages were back logged, or he is really going off the deep end.

I am thinking of calling the police department to actually see if he did make a claim as to his phone being hacked. It's just all alarming to me that he is exhibiting this behavior. He mentioned wanting to "hang" the person that did it, and my fear is he may begin to think that I had something to do with it (obviously in his mind).
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He said he had delusions of being robbed, so that's what I first thought of, because in delusional disorder the primary symptom is having delusions (without thought disorder -- like you couldn't understand what he was saying, or if he yelled at imaginary people) Does he seem to manipulate you? You mentioned he abused you, so it's not unlikely he was using you for personal gain.


He may not have someone with CSE degree, but I think he pissed someone off who had it.
Do you know whether he visited a dark net site or had reckless behavior?



You do need to be afraid if you haven't done anything. Call the police and tell them he abused you, threatened to smoke pot, now is playing mind game etc. etc. (from what I could make out.) You shouldn't have been in relationship with him in first place.
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Also, unless he was highly stressed (like sweating, breathing heavily/hyperventilating, having tremors or shaky hands, and had a shaky or raspy voice when you told him you're ending the relationship) I doubt he had a breakdown.


It's more likely he is lying and causing pain to you. Did he had butterflies in stomach? Did you notice something odd? Did he talk about psychological evaluation he ever had (if he did)? Unless he sought professional help for his delusions, I doubt it is true.
Edit : My mistake, I didn't notice you live in New York. The Police Department must be busy.
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I think maybe a paranoid disorder then? No, he isn't involved in any illegal activities. He has a mundane job and a mundane home. We know no one who would bother to hack into a phone and send two text messages.

I am leaning towards this is an elaborate overreaction in his mind. He draws conclusions and thinks things that just aren't accurate.

I think the pot smoking comment may have been a back logged message along with the "Maybe I need pills too". It's possible he was intoxicated last night and tried to send messages that just sent over now. I took them as him mocking me for returning to taking celexa for my issues.

I truly believe he isn't lying, and he thinks he was hacked. He just draws the worst conclusions from everything.
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Default Re: Did I cause a psychotic break?

This might be an overreaction (Hypervigilance) and do you believe he may have a formal thought disorder (i.e., was speaking in a strange manner, and was generally suspicious of you) Did he ever physically abuse you?




All I can suggest is to be yourself and ignore people like him. I am on meds too and I know how it is like to be scorned. It's not a "sign of weakness" but rather biological system suffering from physical damage (change in the anatomy of brain, change in its chemicals, metabolism, infection or injury etc.)
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if it's a toxic relationship you should not meet him.
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In this instance he wasn't suspicious of me, and he can flip on a dime and become very hostile over what he believes are threats to his ego. He's not physically abusive.

I do believe he has SOME sort of disorder. What, I am not 100% sure but I can see aspects of many in him. Year or so ago we were at a comedy club and I put my hand on his head laughing at some joke having a great time not thinking anything.

Immediately I heard "you're a ****ing ***** for doing that to me"

Then cue hours and hours of being verbally berated. He believed I did this in response to a joke about a small penis, and was making a mockery of him.
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He sounds very controlling and self centered.....this is not your fault I suspect he's trying to gaslighting you.
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