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Well, it seems my husband has decided that he will live his life and I'll live mine. Fine. Whatever he wants.
This kind of thing happens all the time. People can't cope with MI. I'm starting my new life by going after the S.O.B. whose fault it is. I'm going to enjoy this. __________________ You're only given one little spark of madness. You mustn't lose it. ~ Robin Williams Did you exchange a walk on part in the war for a lead role in a cage? ~ Pink Floyd |
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I think you should say the words instead of write the words, if you can. In person and not by phone where she can hang up. Face to face, let her have it. In my experience one session really won't be enough, either. For me, I gave it to my nitwit "mother" for about 40 minutes, non-stop. Later, she died. Now I wish she was still alive so I could give it to her again.
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May I ask what you mean by MI? May I say something about your mother? I think she is likely disturbed. I don't think she can be operating from a rational or healthy mind. That does NOT mean that her choices are okay...it is NOT a justification or rationalization. I just mean that if she's operating from a completely distorted and dysfunctional place in her mind, I am not sure that she will be open to any logic or feedback from you. Her actions, in addition to the abuse you endured, must be deeply hurtful to you and also just plain bizarre. I am just wondering what is best for you? Do you think that pursuing your abuser will bring you any peace or were you referring to your mother as the "SOB"...going after her. Did you ever try talking to a therapist with experience in sexual abuse? I wish you peace and healing energy and safe love. |
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MI stands for mental illness.
As to my husband, who knows. He understands what's wrong with me, but I can tell he resents it, as he should. It's not his fault but he bears the brunt of it. As to monster mommy and her minion. I know where they are. When I'm ready, I'll go. They may die of old age before that happens and that's okay. __________________ You're only given one little spark of madness. You mustn't lose it. ~ Robin Williams Did you exchange a walk on part in the war for a lead role in a cage? ~ Pink Floyd |
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So after some more research, I discovered they were together from 2012 to 2016. That's when they were living together. I wish I had known back then. I would have killed them both. Two birds with one stone, so to speak.
I found his exact address as well. I'm thinking about driving down and finding him - just watch him for a while and see how I feel. __________________ You're only given one little spark of madness. You mustn't lose it. ~ Robin Williams Did you exchange a walk on part in the war for a lead role in a cage? ~ Pink Floyd |
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