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Old 12-02-2018, 01:38 PM #41
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Dear Werewoman.

There is a very simple reason why you are labouring in constructing an appropriate letter to your Mother....The reason is that there simply are no words to convey that kind of disgust. Please be the human voice of reason here...please don't write anything. Please don't allow those creatures anything more of yourself. They took your innocence and your trust, don't give them insight into what's in your mind...That belongs to you and you alone.

My best advice on this is for you to galvanise your resolve, and stride forward into the world...a world where you get to choose how to become the hero of your own life story.

Werewoman, I wish you joy and peace and all the very best moving into a brighter future.
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Well, it seems my husband has decided that he will live his life and I'll live mine. Fine. Whatever he wants.

This kind of thing happens all the time. People can't cope with MI.

I'm starting my new life by going after the S.O.B. whose fault it is. I'm going to enjoy this.
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I think you should say the words instead of write the words, if you can. In person and not by phone where she can hang up. Face to face, let her have it. In my experience one session really won't be enough, either. For me, I gave it to my nitwit "mother" for about 40 minutes, non-stop. Later, she died. Now I wish she was still alive so I could give it to her again.
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Well, it seems my husband has decided that he will live his life and I'll live mine. Fine. Whatever he wants.

This kind of thing happens all the time. People can't cope with MI.

I'm starting my new life by going after the S.O.B. whose fault it is. I'm going to enjoy this.
Hello Werewoman, I am so sorry for your pain and abuse and trauma. You deserved dignity, and peace, and love. Are you saying that your husband wants to separate or am I misunderstanding you?

May I ask what you mean by MI?

May I say something about your mother? I think she is likely disturbed. I don't think she can be operating from a rational or healthy mind. That does NOT mean that her choices are okay...it is NOT a justification or rationalization. I just mean that if she's operating from a completely distorted and dysfunctional place in her mind, I am not sure that she will be open to any logic or feedback from you. Her actions, in addition to the abuse you endured, must be deeply hurtful to you and also just plain bizarre.

I am just wondering what is best for you? Do you think that pursuing your abuser will bring you any peace or were you referring to your mother as the "SOB"...going after her. Did you ever try talking to a therapist with experience in sexual abuse?

I wish you peace and healing energy and safe love.
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Well, it seems my husband has decided that he will live his life and I'll live mine. Fine. Whatever he wants.

This kind of thing happens all the time. People can't cope with MI.

I'm starting my new life by going after the S.O.B. whose fault it is. I'm going to enjoy this.
It sound like it might give you some closure.
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I think you should say the words instead of write the words, if you can. In person and not by phone where she can hang up. Face to face, let her have it. In my experience one session really won't be enough, either. For me, I gave it to my nitwit "mother" for about 40 minutes, non-stop. Later, she died. Now I wish she was still alive so I could give it to her again.
Great advice! I'm sorry that that had happened to you.
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Hello Werewoman, I am so sorry for your pain and abuse and trauma. You deserved dignity, and peace, and love. Are you saying that your husband wants to separate or am I misunderstanding you?

May I ask what you mean by MI?

May I say something about your mother? I think she is likely disturbed. I don't think she can be operating from a rational or healthy mind. That does NOT mean that her choices are okay...it is NOT a justification or rationalization. I just mean that if she's operating from a completely distorted and dysfunctional place in her mind, I am not sure that she will be open to any logic or feedback from you. Her actions, in addition to the abuse you endured, must be deeply hurtful to you and also just plain bizarre.

I am just wondering what is best for you? Do you think that pursuing your abuser will bring you any peace or were you referring to your mother as the "SOB"...going after her. Did you ever try talking to a therapist with experience in sexual abuse?

I wish you peace and healing energy and safe love.
Great advice! I think talking to a therapist might help you.
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Good for you...."When good men do nothing, evil continues."
I simply agree!
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And just when things can't get any more complicated, my nephew, Tommy, tried to kill himself by jumping out of a moving car. I have not yet gone to Ft. Worth to see him yet because he's still unconscious. He'll probably survive, but we don't know if or when he'll wake up.
Eventually I will go and I'm sure my mother will be there. I have decided to make it clear that if she doesn't want me to enforce a protective order, don't be at the hospital when I get there. Period. I'm not playing games.
I'm sorry that this has happened to your nephew. I lost my brother in law to suicide.
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