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Default Aug 09, 2018 at 11:14 AM
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Well, well, well...I got a response. I didn't read it, and I won't. I was VERY serious when I said no more letters, etc. And does she disrespect my wishes yet again? Of course. It's what she does.

I wonder how long it will take her to notice I never read it. Hmmmm.

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After a lot of thought, I got angrier and angrier that they wrote back. After I explicitly told them not to....so even though I threw their letter in the garbage without reading it, i replied with this:

THIS IS NOT A GAME!

I specifically stated that you not contact me in any way, and what’s the first thing you do? Write a letter. It went into the garbage, as will any subsequent communications.

THIS IS MY LIFE AND I DON’T NEED OR WANT YOU IN IT!

For the last time,

LEAVE ME ALONE!!!!!

If you don’t, I will make you.

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Default Aug 23, 2018 at 11:18 AM
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I woke up and realized...she's never going to leave me alone, so I'm filing a petition for a protective order. Enough is enough.

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Default Nov 12, 2018 at 09:53 AM
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And just when things can't get any more complicated, my nephew, Tommy, tried to kill himself by jumping out of a moving car. I have not yet gone to Ft. Worth to see him yet because he's still unconscious. He'll probably survive, but we don't know if or when he'll wake up.
Eventually I will go and I'm sure my mother will be there. I have decided to make it clear that if she doesn't want me to enforce a protective order, don't be at the hospital when I get there. Period. I'm not playing games.

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So a few months back, I was doing research searching out my ex-stepfather molesters whereabouts. I've been tracking him for years.

Now imagine my surprise when during my last stalking session I found that his address had changed - - to my mother's address. She's back with him, the man who molested me as a teenager.

I was speechless. It's not like she doesn't know.

I have written letter after letter, only to reject it and start over again. I want to make it very clear that I will not ever see nor speak to my mother again. She doesn't love me and she doesn't respect me, obviously. I won't be attending her funeral. I want nothing more to do with her.

I you were to write such a letter, what would you say? I know one thing, she didn't just burn the bridge, she stood by laughing as it fell into the water below.
You could write the letter ou but don't even send it. We're the police ever involved in these crimes? Let people around know about her ex.
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Maybe you could write the letter , bless it and then burn it ? It's something I've done with my T. It's so painful I know , we don't get closure from these people sadly no matter how we want it. What's going to make you feel better is what's important. Hugs if wanted.
I agree! I write to myself all the time! Just to explain how I was effect by their actions. Sometimes it help me. Even though I know that they will never react the way that I want and they will meet read the letter. Sometimes it the only closures that I can get even if I am the one who is apologized to myself for the wrong they done to me
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Werewoman, clearly your mother is just too STUPID to have the capacity to be receptive to anything you could, or even I could write to her if I myself tried to make the effort. Honestly, there are human beings in this world that are just plain STUPID, the kind of STUPID that just can't be fixed.
I completely agree with you!
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Interesting choice of words. At one point in my letter to them - I'm writing it to both of them - I point out the abject stupidity of people who hurt kids because the day will come when the child is no longer the vulnerable one, but the abuser.

As a survivor, I won't take advantage of their stupidity, but I bet there are people who do.
I completely agree with you.
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Writing a letter is good for "you" Werewoman, it's a way for you to write down how another person's behavior hurt "you". The one who needs the healing is "you" and often the people that hurt us in some way simply are unable to be receptive to "our" hurts otherwise they would have never have hurt or betrayed us to begin with.

I could NEVER ignore it if someone hurt my daughter in the manor you have shared, and I certainly could NEVER choose this man over my daughter like your mother has. I am very sorry you have this kind of mother, you certainly did nothing to deserve that and I can't blame you for being angry. Given what your mother did, I don't think she is capable of caring no matter what is said to her.

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I completely agree with you!. Some people just won't leave the abuser. It all about them
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I just keep repeating,"don't exist,don't exist",any time they are in
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That great advice!I wish that I had thought about that myself!
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Maybe after I send it, I'll post it here.
That sounds like a great plan!
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I am very sorry for the pain this is causing.

WTF? Why on earth would your mother get involved with him again?
How insulting toward you!

Please take very good care of yourself.


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Well, I told my siblings about it. My younger brother is in complete denial, which I expected, but I still felt I should tell him anyway.
I think that you should tell your siblings and anyone else!
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Here's the letter I sent them, in case anyone is interested.

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That sound very powerful!
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This is my younger brother's response when I told him they were together again...

"what you are saying is absurd! I am quite sure that is just incorrect information put on the internet by mistake, there is incorrect information every where about every body. I just had to correct about 5 different things on my credit report, one was my son was listed as an AKA. Also they had a phone number listed that I never had! This sort of thing is rampant in information on the internet! Mom was at my house for three weeks selling her house in Bedford, she brought her cat so the cat would not be alone at her house in Colorado Springs. It is just bogus information that you saw on the internet and nothing else! They were married at one time so it is just bad info!"

It's about what I expected, actually. My older brother was not surprised but like me won't have anything to do with her anymore.
I'm sorry that this has happened to you! Maybe your older brother believe you!
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I have spread the word to anyone who will listen. I will not lie down this time.
Thank you everyone for your input and posts. It helps to know there are people out there who care.

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Good for you...."When good men do nothing, evil continues."
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I have spread the word to anyone who will listen. I will not lie down this time.
Thank you everyone for your input and posts. It helps to know there are people out there who care.
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