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Old 07-21-2018, 11:14 AM #1
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Default Monster Mommy finally went too far

So a few months back, I was doing research searching out my ex-stepfather molesters whereabouts. I've been tracking him for years.

Now imagine my surprise when during my last stalking session I found that his address had changed - - to my mother's address. She's back with him, the man who molested me as a teenager.

I was speechless. It's not like she doesn't know.

I have written letter after letter, only to reject it and start over again. I want to make it very clear that I will not ever see nor speak to my mother again. She doesn't love me and she doesn't respect me, obviously. I won't be attending her funeral. I want nothing more to do with her.

I you were to write such a letter, what would you say? I know one thing, she didn't just burn the bridge, she stood by laughing as it fell into the water below.
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Maybe you could write the letter , bless it and then burn it ? It's something I've done with my T. It's so painful I know , we don't get closure from these people sadly no matter how we want it. What's going to make you feel better is what's important. Hugs if wanted.
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Werewoman, clearly your mother is just too STUPID to have the capacity to be receptive to anything you could, or even I could write to her if I myself tried to make the effort. Honestly, there are human beings in this world that are just plain STUPID, the kind of STUPID that just can't be fixed.
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Werewoman, clearly your mother is just too STUPID to have the capacity to be receptive to anything you could, or even I could write to her if I myself tried to make the effort. Honestly, there are human beings in this world that are just plain STUPID, the kind of STUPID that just can't be fixed.
Interesting choice of words. At one point in my letter to them - I'm writing it to both of them - I point out the abject stupidity of people who hurt kids because the day will come when the child is no longer the vulnerable one, but the abuser.

As a survivor, I won't take advantage of their stupidity, but I bet there are people who do.
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Writing a letter is good for "you" Werewoman, it's a way for you to write down how another person's behavior hurt "you". The one who needs the healing is "you" and often the people that hurt us in some way simply are unable to be receptive to "our" hurts otherwise they would have never have hurt or betrayed us to begin with.

I could NEVER ignore it if someone hurt my daughter in the manor you have shared, and I certainly could NEVER choose this man over my daughter like your mother has. I am very sorry you have this kind of mother, you certainly did nothing to deserve that and I can't blame you for being angry. Given what your mother did, I don't think she is capable of caring no matter what is said to her.

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I just keep repeating,"don't exist,don't exist",any time they are in
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Maybe after I send it, I'll post it here.
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I am very sorry for the pain this is causing.

WTF? Why on earth would your mother get involved with him again?
How insulting toward you!

Please take very good care of yourself.


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Well, I told my siblings about it. My younger brother is in complete denial, which I expected, but I still felt I should tell him anyway.
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Here's the letter I sent them, in case anyone is interested.

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Did you exchange a walk on part in the war for a lead role in a cage? ~ Pink Floyd

'Cause my monsters are real, and they're trained how to kill
And there's no coming back and they just laugh at how I feel
And my monsters can fly, and they never say die
And there's no going back, if I get trapped I'll never heal
Yeah, my monsters are real. ~ Shinedown


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