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How do you deal with it when an online person, possibly a narcissist, is intentionally and successfully trying to trigger and hurt you. This has happened to me before on another forum. I am not a mean person but I do get triggered by people who I think are trying to intentionally harm me. Possibly I need “medication”

But I’m allergic to medication

I might have to take a short break from pc and leave the other forum (not pc) where I’m being harassed

I’m not “coping well with life”

I’m “a failure”

Not about anyone on pc
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My personal opinion is you can't win with an internet troll. The best thing to do, in my opinion, is to simply block them in whatever way you can & move on.
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My short answer to your query is: Disengage!

You are a good person, Fuzzy.
I endorse what the Skeezyks advised above.

Whoever they are, they are not worth your attention. Take what break you need and, remember, we who know you for years love you.
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I have to agree with both Skeezyks and Rose76 - disengage from them entirely, if their behavior is having this much of an impact on you it isn't worth it.

There are indeed some narcissists and trolls on forums. I have also experienced this and I have had to set boundaries. Please do this for yourself FuzzyBear.

Also - do not believe the lies. You are an amazing person through and through. There is not a single time I have EVER found you to be even remotely rude. Please know that you are a good person. And if you were to get angry or be rude - you are still a good person because you are entitled to your emotions and you have every right to be upset! Being rude would not make you a bad person. Everyone has angry days.

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I have to agree with both Skeezyks and Rose76 - disengage from them entirely, if their behavior is having this much of an impact on you it isn't worth it.

There are indeed some narcissists and trolls on forums. I have also experienced this and I have had to set boundaries. Please do this for yourself FuzzyBear.

Also - do not believe the lies. You are an amazing person through and through. There is not a single time I have EVER found you to be even remotely rude. Please know that you are a good person. And if you were to get angry or be rude - you are still a good person because you are entitled to your emotions and you have every right to be upset! Being rude would not make you a bad person. Everyone has angry days.

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My personal opinion is you can't win with an internet troll. The best thing to do, in my opinion, is to simply block them in whatever way you can & move on.
Thank you Skeezyks, I agree.

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My short answer to your query is: Disengage!

You are a good person, Fuzzy.
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Whoever they are, they are not worth your attention. Take what break you need and, remember, we who know you for years love you.
Thank you Rose76
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