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I probably should've gotten more help. My symptoms seem so much more prevalent in my life now. I'm feeling worse day after day. I have a session of brainspotting (trauma therapy technique, sort of similar to EMDR) set for next week. Not sure if it's actually any kind of good idea and I'm feeling pushed and forced into it. Again. Like the past two times, and I don't recall those actually making positive changes in my life this past year. In fact, last year at this time I was at least able to function slightly better. Now look at me. "It's how we get you better." "It's the only thing that can work." Why are these the facts? I can't believe they are. I feel trapped and locked down into a decision I didn't want. I want to be better, but why can't people hear me when I say "I don't want to do this." It's like it has never, and will never, matter what I feel comfortable with.
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Early on in my therapy, my therapist strongly suggested that I do EMDR. Well, I did EMDR back in the early 90's and I didn't find it particularly helpful. So I told her no. When she suggested it again I told her that I don't feel comfortable with the idea and that, no, I don't want to do it. She never brought it up again.
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I agree with what Beth said. If you are feeling pushed / forced into any particular type of therapy,....if the therapist is not hearing you when you say you don't want to, then (in my opinion) - that therapy is doomed to fail; gonna be a total waste of your time. "The only thing that can work"???? Oh heck no. I can't think of a single issue that ~only~ has one single solution. For anything. Psych issue or non-psych issue. Maybe ask your therapist to help you explore why you are feeling that he / she isn't hearing you when you say you don't want to do this? Help you understand why you are feeling pressured / forced into doing something you don't want to do? I've walked out on p-docs and therapists because I was uncomfortable with what THEY thought I should be doing. I'm not saying they were "bad" - just that they weren't the right person to help me at that time, with those particular issues I was dealing with.
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I do not believe we have to do everything therapists say. We still know ourselves and know what works. I think its inappropriate to imply that its the only thing that will work.
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I have therapy in a few hours. I'm gonna let him know how I feel, what I believe and ultimately just 'no'. Bookmark this and do it when I feel ready.
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I only just now read this whole thread. I also agree with the other posters. Being pushed/forced into one ''solution'' by a therapist is at best, inappropriate imo.
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I'm relieved to hear other people feeling the same way. My therapist believes EMDR is the miracle cure for everything. I did it once 11 mos. ago. It felt uncomfortable. He wants me to do it again. I've been telling him I don't want to but he keeps saying it's important that we do this. It'll make everything better. I don't know which is causing me more anxiety, the stuff I've been through or the treatment!
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I am not sure about brain spotting. Yet, the therapy that I have done is called Accelerated Resolution Therapy. It is based on using eye movement and revisiting traumatic events. This is supposed to HELP a person better process a trauma. We do not forget events, however, our brain is set up where when it processes it does that during our sleep while our eyes move back and forth. What that eye movement does is it connects events to other areas of the brain that contains ways of sorting out these events.
Trauma is stored in the back of the brain, that is actually the area that lights up when a person is experiencing flashbacks or trauma symptoms. The frontal part of the brain actually has little to no activity. When a person does the eye movement therapy and recalls an event that reduces the impact trauma has in the back of the brain where that trauma is stored and it reduces the impact a person experiences when they are triggered. So, while I know you don't feel comfortable with the therapy suggested to you, it may actually reduce how you get triggered. We never forget events, but, we can reduce the amount of impact they have on us. |
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I know it's needed. I just don't feel ready. I'm trying to develop some kind of foundation first because, in the past, it's caused problems. Brainspotting is similar, Open Eyes, but it's the act of processing all of it. Just seems like too much and I get overwhelmed and such.
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YES!! I know what you mean. Processing trauma takes a lot out of a person. Each person is different depending on how much trauma they experienced and it can even go way back for the person too.
However, from what you have shared (((MtnTime2896))) you are suffering. That is what the therapist wants to decrease in treating you. Part of your stepping back is you are trying to avoid more suffering. PTSD is VERY hard for the person suffering to articulate what it means to them, they avoid because they don't want to suffer and it feels like no one understands how hard it can get. |
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