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Default Jun 17, 2020 at 04:16 AM
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Hello I am new here and I am 35 years old and female.
I have joined because as of today I am receiving help from a mental health first aider for sexual harassment and childhood assault. My first aider believes I might have post traumatic stress disorder and it may possibly be affecting my thoughts, concentration and decision making during my job.

I was told by other people when I explained what the harasser had done, that I “was asking for it”, that being assaulted as a child was “just an excuse”, I’m “not to be trusted” because I’m married and that “I wanted it.” I felt so disbelieved.

I also may have low self esteem/confidence because I do think I’m stupid, useless and ugly.

Anyway, glad to be here and thank you for reading.
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When others say the things you shared they are not sensitive and caring and it’s not the kind of presence you should have around you that can benefit you in any way.
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If you were abused as a child it was not your fault. If you were abused as young woman its not your fault. It is not your fault that abusers abused you,.

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If you are feeling pain from someone else's actions that means that they hurt you. Nobody deserves to be hurt. Ever. You are not stupid because you found help, understand your own issues and are seeking even more help here. You are not useless because your story helps others know they are not alone. You are not ugly because you are wounded which means you have a heart which means you are special and when you realize that and can smile you can light up a room.
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