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Default Jul 22, 2020 at 05:19 PM
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I have several past traumas in my life. Abuse, animal bite, victim of robbery etc.

I recently had surgery due to one of these traumas. The physical pain I feel is due to surgery. However the pain is bringing up the memory of the incident. Maybe remembering pain from the initial injury is surfacing. Seeing surgical dressings and gauze is a reminder of the initial injury. Its bringing forth memories of the traumatic event. I take pain medication yet when it wears off, memories surface. The surgeon knows I have ptsd (referral briefly stating cause of injury, ptsd as a result)
Medical doctors treat the physical part of your health. A few have been insensitive to my trauma (remarks, insensitive comments). I'm not expecting empathy etc. Respect is all I want.

If you have ptsd how do you deal with insensitive remarks regarding trauma or your ptsd?? Finding another doctor is one answer.
Have you come across doctors who treat you respectfully, understanding?
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I have PTSD from a surgery that saved my life and more so from the second surgery. There was a very crappy doctor that filled in for my surgeon once or twice. He kept bragging that he had surgery and never took pain medicine and that nobody needed it. That was in the last week of May. I'm still in pain, nearly two months later from complications from the second surgery. I cannot forget that doctor telling me I didn't need pain meds while I could only scream and cry constantly. I don't know how to deal with it or him. His bedside manner was unacceptable. I try to forget but he keeps showing up in my thoughts.
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I have PTSD from a surgery that saved my life and more so from the second surgery. There was a very crappy doctor that filled in for my surgeon once or twice. He kept bragging that he had surgery and never took pain medicine and that nobody needed it. That was in the last week of May. I'm still in pain, nearly two months later from complications from the second surgery. I cannot forget that doctor telling me I didn't need pain meds while I could only scream and cry constantly. I don't know how to deal with it or him. His bedside manner was unacceptable. I try to forget but he keeps showing up in my thoughts.
Sorryshaped that sounds awful. Im sorry you experienced horrendous treatment. Is it possible to seek another opinion to help with the complications?

I had trauma that eventually required surgery 4 years ago. The surgeon always made insensitive remarks. I stopped seeing him, found someone else. I've only met my current surgeon twice (consult and surgery). He seems okay but as usual I tend to feel cautious due to bad experiences. Unfortunately the rude one also participated in my most recent surgery. My follow up will be with the rude one because the other one will be away. Not looking forward to dealing with insensitive one.
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I have several past traumas in my life. Abuse, animal bite, victim of robbery etc.

I recently had surgery due to one of these traumas. The physical pain I feel is due to surgery. However the pain is bringing up the memory of the incident. Maybe remembering pain from the initial injury is surfacing. Seeing surgical dressings and gauze is a reminder of the initial injury. Its bringing forth memories of the traumatic event. I take pain medication yet when it wears off, memories surface. The surgeon knows I have ptsd (referral briefly stating cause of injury, ptsd as a result)
Medical doctors treat the physical part of your health. A few have been insensitive to my trauma (remarks, insensitive comments). I'm not expecting empathy etc. Respect is all I want.

If you have ptsd how do you deal with insensitive remarks regarding trauma or your ptsd?? Finding another doctor is one answer.
Have you come across doctors who treat you respectfully, understanding?

Hi there.

I have came across people who treat my trauma insensitively. I’m rather blessed because it does not happen often. I don’t know any particular advice on how to deal with these people, but I would advise that those who don’t understand and especially those who disrespect you do not deserve to be within your presence. Trauma is a very real thing and has a very real way of warping your reality.

It doesn’t hurt either to be upfront about how disrespectful people are about your trauma either. It’s okay to stand up for yourself!

It sounds as if you have already taken steps to proactively distance yourself from those people. That’s totally awesome!
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I have found it to be worse because my brain had nothing else to do but spin itself into a frenzy. Everything took me back into one trauma or another.

It sounds like I absolutely lucked out in that all of my doctors formed one giant round robin in caring for me, so they all knew about my rampaging PTSD, and that I'd also unexpectedly lost my mother just three months prior to the cancer discovery, which when combined added a new PTSD causation to my diagnosis. For all their gentleness, though, it certainly didn't stop me cycling when I dropped into reality between med doses during recovery.
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Hi there.

I have came across people who treat my trauma insensitively. I’m rather blessed because it does not happen often. I don’t know any particular advice on how to deal with these people, but I would advise that those who don’t understand and especially those who disrespect you do not deserve to be within your presence. Trauma is a very real thing and has a very real way of warping your reality.

It doesn’t hurt either to be upfront about how disrespectful people are about your trauma either. It’s okay to stand up for yourself!

It sounds as if you have already taken steps to proactively distance yourself from those people. That’s totally awesome!
Thanks! I quit seeing the insensitive doctor. Unfortunately due to shortage in this specialty, he participated in my recent surgery. I'm hoping my follow up with him will be one time only. The other surgeon is away so hopefully the rest of my followups (2) more will be with him.

I am learning to cut out disrespectful people who are not supportive or rude. The trauma has warped my sense of reality. I assume everyone I meet will think I'm damaged, not good or weird. I do not go around telling everyone of my past. If I choose to share even a small amount of info I automatically brace for bad treatment. It took one life and death situation to realize maybe I should not worry. Instead of feeling sensitive, its more anger now regarding rudeness.
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I have found it to be worse because my brain had nothing else to do but spin itself into a frenzy. Everything took me back into one trauma or another.

It sounds like I absolutely lucked out in that all of my doctors formed one giant round robin in caring for me, so they all knew about my rampaging PTSD, and that I'd also unexpectedly lost my mother just three months prior to the cancer discovery, which when combined added a new PTSD causation to my diagnosis. For all their gentleness, though, it certainly didn't stop me cycling when I dropped into reality between med doses during recovery.
I'm so sorry about your mothers death and being diagnosed with cancer. I am glad your doctors are supportive. Did you openly share, feel comfortable sharing ptsd, bad days with them? Or were you quiet about it and they learned through your medical charts, therapist, or someone else you had ptsd?
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Default Jul 27, 2020 at 09:30 AM
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It’s also important to realize that when surgery was done in most cases you were given anesthesia and it can take a few months for the affects from the anesthesia to finally stop affecting your brain. Everyone is different when it comes to how anesthesia affects them too.

It’s unfortunate but some surgeons and even nurses and other staff can become cold and very matter of fact when having any surgery for a patient is scary. Also some individuals have a higher pain threshold than others. So what may not seem all that painful for one person can actually be very painful for another person.

The staff at hospitals do get so used to seeing so many things they can forget how medical challenges for the patient can actually be very traumatic.
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