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Old 01-28-2008, 04:49 PM #1
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Default PTSD for grief/loss??

Maybe this is a dumb question, and I apologize if it is... but I was just wondering if you can experience PTSD from the loss (not from death) of a significant person in your life?

(In my case, a mother-like figure)

Just trying to understand....

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It doesn't really fit the diagnoses requirements, unless that person's passing was traumatic in itself and you were involved or around to witness it. Does this makes sense? There has to be some sense of fear of dying or nearly dying personally for the dx to fit.

Overwhelming grief is a very strong emotion though, and I'm sorry you are experiencing it.


However, if say that person that passed caused a person to be traumatized, what that someone might experience is a triggering of those intense emotions connected with the PTSD from the prior trauma, once the victimizer passes. Does this makes sense, also?
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umm... you lost me on the second one PTSD for grief/loss?? ... sorry!
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Ok. (((hugs)))

Jacq, this is purely hypothetical, ok? If the passing of your relative was not in itself a trauma such as a car accident where you were also in the car, and you are experiencing more emotions than the normal levels of grief (anger, denial etc) there is a possiblity that this person who passed may have "abused" you or a sibling (in your presence) and the emotions arising are from that trauma.

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umm, kind of PTSD for grief/loss??

But see, for me, no one died .. They're just not longer in my life. I was just really (emotionally) hurt by this "mother-figure" - not actually a relative - and for reasons I don't care to talk about, her an I no longer have contact. Well, I should say, that she doesn't feel the need to contact me anymore.

does this make more sense?

Sorry for all the confusion/me misunderstanding PTSD for grief/loss??
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jacq10: I was just wondering if you can experience PTSD from the loss (not from death) of a significant person in your life? ... (In my case, a mother-like figure)

If I understand you correctly, you lost someone who was very important to you but this loss was not due to their death. What seems to be most important to your situation is the circumstances surrounding the loss and the fact that this person served as a "mother-like" figure in your life.

Can you identify the emotions you feel in regard to the reasons for the loss? Can you identify the emotions you feel in regard to the loss of this "mother-like" figure in your life? Those are probably the areas you need to focus your attention on.

If your relationship with your real mother included traumatic aspects or had a traumatic ending, I could see how this more recent loss might stir up some unresolved trauma for you. It might be helpful to examine your relationship with your own mother as well to see if what happened in your relationship with her is having any impact on what's happening now.



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Oh man PTSD for grief/loss?? I can't even go there ... this is too much. I shouldn't have posted anything ...

I can't get these thoughts to leave me the heck alone. EVERYTHING is triggering.

Why do I need her so badly?

PTSD for grief/loss??


.... I'm sorry guys, I do appreciate your responses ... I just.. not now.
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Do take your own time jacq10. Obviously, there's something here that's very painful for you. Touching that or bringing it out, is comparable to exposing a raw nerve. It can really REALLY hurt and we often do need to pull back from it a bit.

This can be a good time to allow yourself to practice self-mercy and self-compassion. No matter the circumstances, it can hurt terribly to lose the people we love. Part of healing is allowing ourselves to feel the pain of that loss, but if it's a really big loss, we often can only deal with it one small piece at a time. This is why when we need to pull back, we should.




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All loss causes grief and the grief process can be quite long and intense but is its own natural process rather than an illness or unnatural "problem" like PTSD is.

Here's what happens in the grief process:

http://www.uvm.edu/~chwb/counseling/...urces/faq.html
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