Getting fat shamed after I gained 35kg with medication

raf_edd · Jun 07, 2018 at 03:18 AM

Hey guys I was a pretty skinny kid from my childhood to my teens years, sport was a part of my life. But after my first crisis I absolutely quit sports, and with medication I gained a lot of weight, not obese but enough to be called fat. I know people say it as a joke, family, Co workers etc. But it kind hurts me to be treated like that. They say to take a jog and eat healthy. Try to get off the house depressed and then run! Not so easy right? Medicate with olamzapine and try eating less! Not that easy right? I'm becoming such a wimp. But those comments really hurt my self esteem. How do you guys feel about that?

ShadowGX · Jun 07, 2018 at 09:53 PM

Been fat all my life and been made fun of for it. I've gotten worse as I've gotten older. People don't understand that them telling you that you're fat or "need to do this or that" to fix it doesn't actually help at all, especially when you struggle with depression. In fact, for many, it can make you worse.

For anyone you have to socialize with regularly, I'd try talking to them about it and hope they understand. They might not, though. Some people just don't have the ability to empathize and prefer to judge. There's unfortunately nothing you can do about that. If they continue, I would only bother with them when absolutely necessary since it's seeming to do more harm than good for you to talk to them atm.

*Laurie* · Jun 10, 2018 at 07:00 PM

Most people pay WAY too much attention to body size - weight and height. It's ridiculous. When I was a child, teen, and adult (until mid-40's) I was very thin. At age 25 I was 5'6" and weighed 107 lbs. Being thin was the norm for me. I was terribly self-conscious because I was often asked if I was anorexic (no), or if I purposely dieted all the time (no) - even comments like, "You must not weigh anything soaking wet!" were awkward.

In my later-40's I gained weight, but it was within "normal" range. At age 51 I was prescribed Seroquel. Within 18 months I had gained a full 100 lbs. Suddenly, for the first time in my life, I was quite overweight. Certain people in my life were truly abusive - someone I was close to called me a "fat cow". And there were "the comments"...
"Your face is so pretty, though."
"OH, I don't think that shirt will fit, well, YOU."

It's disgusting, the things people think and say. I have decided to like myself for myself. Screw those judgmental jerks. Seriously. They are toxic and to be avoided.

yellow_fleurs · Jun 13, 2018 at 08:32 AM

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Originally Posted by raf_edd

Hey guys I was a pretty skinny kid from my childhood to my teens years, sport was a part of my life. But after my first crisis I absolutely quit sports, and with medication I gained a lot of weight, not obese but enough to be called fat. I know people say it as a joke, family, Co workers etc. But it kind hurts me to be treated like that. They say to take a jog and eat healthy. Try to get off the house depressed and then run! Not so easy right? Medicate with olamzapine and try eating less! Not that easy right? I'm becoming such a wimp. But those comments really hurt my self esteem. How do you guys feel about that?

I am sorry, that is hurtful for them to say. Even if it really shouldn't matter it has been made a big deal in our society and that makes it tough. During a bad episode of depression I gained a decent amount of weight once, seemingly without even changing my diet and felt I couldn't control it. A number of people felt the need to comment on it (usually those that didn't realize I was recovering from anorexia, thanks guys). Like I had a coworker say "Oh you got fat!" even though I was not even technically overweight according to my BMI. It's such a common side effect of some psych meds that all those people saying it would probably be in the same situation if they had to take it. They're just being insensitive. As long as you are not in a really unhealthy weight range, and your doctor isn't concerned, then that's what should matter. Take care of yourself!

bpforever1 · Jun 13, 2018 at 09:29 AM

I am in Japan where skinny is in. I thought I was ok while I was in America. Then, I came here and realized I am considered a blimp. I try to watch what I eat but sometimes eating sweets and fatty foods make me happy. Thus, I am a blimp. I am not the biggest blimp here though so I know that those here who are really big must have a hard time here. I say you must do what makes you happy and healthy. If you are healthy and a bit plump, then don't worry about it too much. If you are unhealthy due to your weight, then, yes, you should do something about your weight. Most likely, it is not a problem. Happiness and good health are the two most important issues for you and me. My parents are skinny too and think I'm going to get diabetic or have a heart attack. So far, I have not. And, if you're not going to either, then don't worry and continue taking care of yourself.

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