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Default Dec 03, 2011 at 11:08 AM
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well cant wait to see my t its been 2 weeks again usually i go weekly and she wants me to schedule 2 weeks out because she says its important she sees me weekly but then she gets booked and the receptionists only schedule 2 ahead of time.

i get frustrated i plan to tell her this but i guess its not her fault we do have a connection but the frustration part is not good in my mind i do get pissed at her and i have these conversations with her in my mind lol anyways i will see how it goes wednesday because im kinda pissed right now

dont know if i have the right to be pissed, after all i have borderline personality clinical depression generalized anxiety lol i guess i am taking this too personal sometimes i feel like im just client number 2500

i asked her the last time if i was a resistant client and she asked me why did i word it like that (client) well hello i am a client u are the therapist

she has told me in the past that i am a likeable person a personable person but compliments and i dont mix
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Default Dec 03, 2011 at 12:26 PM
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Sweepy62: I think you need to let your T know the reason why you're not able to get in weekly to see her. I'm sure your T will understand and will do something to accommodate you. I've written stuff on here about my frustrations with the front desk about scheduling more appointments then what the clinic's policy is. When I told T my feelings and frustrations, she said she has the power to override that policy. I was jumping with joy on the inside. Just tell her. I'm sure she will understand. Tell her and ask if you can schedule more than 2 appointments at a time because you need to have that continuity with her. It's alright to be pissed.

Ha! You call yourself a client to your T. I call myself a client/patient or else "my case" and T seems pissed when I say that. Well, if it ain't that then I know I would say "messed up person." I know she wouldn't like that one either.

I could have written the "compliments and I don't mix" part myself. You're being too hard on yourself. Be gentle with yourself.
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Default Dec 03, 2011 at 03:32 PM
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thanks i will not to say i wont be nervous i dont want her to think that if i dont see her weekly i will die even though it seems like that some times lol
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Default Dec 03, 2011 at 03:37 PM
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I see why you would find that frustrating. Thing is, she's told you it's important to see her every week - and you WANT to see her every week, but then you aren't being accomodated. Bring it to her attention, deffo
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Default Dec 03, 2011 at 05:11 PM
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She probably doesn't know the reason you don't see her weekly is due to how the receptionist schedules. Please tell her! I bet she can fix this for you. I agree it is not good to continue to feel frustrated because of this scheduling problem, as the frustration can affect the rest of your therapy. Tell her!

I think I sometimes use the word "client" about myself when I am with T as a way of distancing myself from him. I am sure he knows what I am doing and notes to himself that I felt a need for more distance, LOL. We are clients so we can call ourselves that.

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thanks i will not to say i wont be nervous i dont want her to think that if i dont see her weekly i will die even though it seems like that some times lol
I highly doubt that she will see it as you dying without seeing her weekly. Remember that she was the one who suggested and recommended that you see her on a weekly basis. Like I said before, I can tell you need that continuity with her. It may seem insignificant at first but in the long run, you will see the benefits in sticking with it weekly. You will be glad you spoke up. The only large barrier I can see that would stand in the way is if there was a financial concern where you cannot afford to see her that often. If that's not the case, please stand up for what you want and NEED. You just go in there and tell her straight up on how you feel and what your needs are. I'll be cheering you on. I would be nervous too but just remember the good things about your T and I'm sure that will give you the strength to open up to her about your feelings and frustrations.
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Ha! You call yourself a client to your T. I call myself a client/patient or else "my case" and T seems pissed when I say that. Well, if it ain't that then I know I would say "messed up person." I know she wouldn't like that one either.
What word does your T prefer?

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What word does your T prefer?
"ME or I" cuz apparently I don't think of myself first that often. Hmm...now I wonder what or how everyone else refers to themselves in therapy to their T. New thread?
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"ME or I" cuz apparently I don't think of myself first that often. Hmm...now I wonder what or how everyone else refers to themselves in therapy to their T. New thread?
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Default Dec 04, 2011 at 02:10 PM
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Sweepy, tell your T why you can't get in to see her weekly and I would hope she will fix that for you. Its very frustrating when your T says one thing, but then something else gets in the way. I think if your T is willing to talk to the scheduling people, then it will work out for you to make sure you have a standing appointment weekly especially if your T recommended it. You have a right to speak out about this. Good luck...
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I highly doubt that she will see it as you dying without seeing her weekly. Remember that she was the one who suggested and recommended that you see her on a weekly basis. Like I said before, I can tell you need that continuity with her. It may seem insignificant at first but in the long run, you will see the benefits in sticking with it weekly. You will be glad you spoke up. The only large barrier I can see that would stand in the way is if there was a financial concern where you cannot afford to see her that often. If that's not the case, please stand up for what you want and NEED. You just go in there and tell her straight up on how you feel and what your needs are. I'll be cheering you on. I would be nervous too but just remember the good things about your T and I'm sure that will give you the strength to open up to her about your feelings and frustrations.
i will try and build courage you know how it goes in the waiting room i have this planned conversation and in the room i become a bumbling idiot and ur right she recommended the importance of seeing me weekly
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