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T has a blog. I've been following it for a while and I have been continually surprised that he never mentions his clients or his work, ever. Where does a T draw his insights from if not from his work?
Now it's become clearer. A recent post had as its title something I said in session 2 days prior. I remember because it was a way-out-there thought about a problem I've been having, and when I shared it with T, he laughed out loud and said that it would be an interesting premise for a movie. He used that and a few other thoughts of mine from that session in his post, in a way that suggested that they were his own ideas. I'm hurt and disappointed. Of course I didn't expect a proper APA-style citation (confidentiality and all), but he could have acknowledged that the idea was not his own. ("The other day, one of my clients shared an interesting thought.") Now I'm wondering if his whole blog is just plagarized off of other people. |
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I'd call him on it.
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I wouldn't like that. It somehow feels a bit dishonest or something... can't quite put my finger on it but it just feels a bit off.
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I would talk to him about it too
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Yeah that would bother me...T occasionally will say one of my clients said....
She also tells me that she now uses one thing I said a couple of years ago but always says one of my clients said..... We were discussing a situation I was in with my family (not hubby and kids) where I was feeling overwhelmed with being everybody's caregiver. I said something about being the caretaker. Then I stopped and asked why caregiver and caretaker are used interchangeably. It seems to me that the person is always giving of themselves and never taking. She completely agreed |
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My T having a blog and posting info from our sessions on it would bother me- I'm paranoid about this so yeah, could be a potential deal breaker for me... Him not giving me a credit would not matter that much :/
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It would bother me like this too. I would say something to him.
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I would be going to one last session with T armed with printed copies of blog posts with anything that I felt was "borrowed" from our sessions highlighted. Read T a riot act ending in formal termination on my part.
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The question is: are your thoughts so original and unique that he couldn't have already thought of them himself or perhaps heard similar things from other clients too? I see the title duplication if that was something particularly unique/catchy (but maybe I'd just be flattered that he liked what I'd said that much rather than upset about it). I know we think we all are having original thoughts, but I suspect our T's have heard a great deal of what clients say more than once. Just a thought. No one throw tomatoes.
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It sounded in the original post that it was something unique used in context with other statements from the same session? I would wonder, too, if there isn't some sort of client release needed for on-line writing, the way there is if a T were writing something for publication in a traditional format. That's not for citation purposes, usually, but for protecting confidentiality.
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owlpride, I would ask him about it. My T often tells me to tell him when I'm bothered by anything he says or does, because that can get in the way of therapy. For me, that is very much the case, and even if your T did not in fact get that from you, it sounds like something that would be worth getting out in the open.
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I think the sole focus and purpose of a therapy session should be to benefit the client, not to be generate "material" for a therapist's self-promoting blog. And therapists use blogs to fish for new clients. (See topics such as "practice building" or marketing.)
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I do however believe in informed consent. If a therapist writes about his work, that ought to be disclosed in the intake session. The more prominent writer-therapists all seem to do this. Quote:
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This is a sad commentary for any T. He actually resorts to breaching confidentiality online?? Well, now you have it in writing. He should be called out on it and admonished. He should be ashamed of himself. I think this speaks volumes about your T. He sounds like a sick man. Be careful what you tell him in the future if you continue to see him. Sorry this happened to you.
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I probably wouldn't get too wound up over this, although I would mention to him that I had seen it.
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Yeah, I'd be pretty honked off. I would expect him to at least ask me if it was okay if he used my words anonymously or not, especially if he knows his clients read his blog. (And duh. Of course they do.)
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my snarky response: you could always leave a comment on the blogpost.
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It's not actually a breach of confidentiality if nothing identifying was mentioned or attached to the phrases/words/ideas.
If it were me, I would likely address concerns about confidentiality and ask to go over specifically what their policy is. After I was certain we had discussed to a point where I understood what my therapist says is the policy, I would then ask how that applies to the blog and online writing. Maybe ask why they don't need my permission to use my ideas as well. But going in, guns blazing, is likely to give you only short term satisfaction and little actual explanation for what they are doing. |
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