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Old 04-15-2017, 07:16 AM   #1
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I am heartbroken
I saw my therapist and she said she couldn't see me anymore because she doesn't think she has the skills to help me. I've been seeing her for 2 and a half years. I don't understand why she couldn't have figured this out earlier!?
I know I was overly attached to her, but she said it was ok, because she was reliable. She told me many times that I could depend on her and she wasn't going anywhere. I feel like I have nothing to live for anymore. My whole world revolved around her.
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Old 04-15-2017, 07:17 AM   #2
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Old 04-15-2017, 08:17 AM   #3
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I'm so sorry--that sounds really painful. Is she giving you a termination period, or was that your last appointment? Did she give you any referrals?
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Old 04-15-2017, 01:34 PM   #4
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I am so, so sorry This breaks my heart. My therapist of seven years did and said the exact same thing to me. I am so sorry.
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Old 04-15-2017, 01:47 PM   #5
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It would have been nicer of her to phase your appointments out slowly, rather than just cold turkey. I'm sorry to hear that happened to you.
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That's awful. If she admits that doesn't have the skills to help you, really reimbursement should be in order. It was her job to have the skills to help you.
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Sorry this happened. And yep, it would have been nice of her to figure this out earlier. I've had a couple therapists who referred me bc they couldn't help, which I totally understand as I don't expect every therapist out there to be a specialist in every mental health issue. Did you get referrals? It would be crummy of your t if she didn't give you any. Again, sorry and hope you find someone else if that's the route you choose.
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That's awful. If she admits that doesn't have the skills to help you, really reimbursement should be in order. It was her job to have the skills to help you.
Especially after 2 1/2 years. OP, you probably don't feel up to this now, but at some point if it were me I would raise an almighty stink about her realization that she couldn't help you two and a half years in.

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This is very unfair - and pretty brutal in its execution. I can't stand Ts who do that whole 'I will always be there for you' routine. It should be banned under a code of ethics or something. It's so unrealistic in most cases.

That aside, I am so sorry for you, there's so much pain in the place you are at. Do you have good support outside of T? Can you think of some ways to take care of yourself while you're dealing with these very difficult feelings? I promise, they get better, and there is a whole lot of life on the other side. Unfortunately, there's also grief to get through first, and for those of us who have been abandoned in the past, that can be pretty intense, as it all seems to get rolled up together. Please take good and gentle care of yourself , Chloe
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Especially after 2 1/2 years. OP, you probably don't feel up to this now, but at some point if it were me I would raise an almighty stink about her realization that she couldn't help you two and a half years in.
Agreed...though my very experienced T admitted about 5 years in that she wasn't sure if what she was doing was helping me or enough for me. And brought up the possibility of hospitalization. That also really upset me. I forget if it was in that session or the next one that she said something that really crushed me: "I can't be your mother or your friend." I debated leaving after that...But then the next session, when I asked her about how she suddenly seemed so detached from me, she admitted that she was having some countertransference stuff (maternal) going on and was afraid she'd gotten too close to me to be objective about what I needed. So she was trying to pull back (and probably overcorrected).

So...is it possible something like that's going on maybe? Not that a T would necessarily admit that...(I was surprised that mine did).

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