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I am heartbroken
I saw my therapist and she said she couldn't see me anymore because she doesn't think she has the skills to help me. I've been seeing her for 2 and a half years. I don't understand why she couldn't have figured this out earlier!? I know I was overly attached to her, but she said it was ok, because she was reliable. She told me many times that I could depend on her and she wasn't going anywhere. I feel like I have nothing to live for anymore. My whole world revolved around her. |
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Therapists shouldn't make promises they can't keep.
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I'm so sorry--that sounds really painful. Is she giving you a termination period, or was that your last appointment? Did she give you any referrals?
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I am so, so sorry This breaks my heart. My therapist of seven years did and said the exact same thing to me. I am so sorry.
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It would have been nicer of her to phase your appointments out slowly, rather than just cold turkey. I'm sorry to hear that happened to you.
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That's awful. If she admits that doesn't have the skills to help you, really reimbursement should be in order. It was her job to have the skills to help you.
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Sorry this happened. And yep, it would have been nice of her to figure this out earlier. I've had a couple therapists who referred me bc they couldn't help, which I totally understand as I don't expect every therapist out there to be a specialist in every mental health issue. Did you get referrals? It would be crummy of your t if she didn't give you any. Again, sorry and hope you find someone else if that's the route you choose.
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Especially after 2 1/2 years. OP, you probably don't feel up to this now, but at some point if it were me I would raise an almighty stink about her realization that she couldn't help you two and a half years in.
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This is very unfair - and pretty brutal in its execution. I can't stand Ts who do that whole 'I will always be there for you' routine. It should be banned under a code of ethics or something. It's so unrealistic in most cases.
That aside, I am so sorry for you, there's so much pain in the place you are at. Do you have good support outside of T? Can you think of some ways to take care of yourself while you're dealing with these very difficult feelings? I promise, they get better, and there is a whole lot of life on the other side. Unfortunately, there's also grief to get through first, and for those of us who have been abandoned in the past, that can be pretty intense, as it all seems to get rolled up together. Please take good and gentle care of yourself , Chloe |
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Quote:
So...is it possible something like that's going on maybe? Not that a T would necessarily admit that...(I was surprised that mine did). Last edited by LonesomeTonight; Apr 15, 2017 at 06:59 PM.. |
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A better approach by T would be:
"I think I've taken you as far as I can and you should consider moving on to another T, such as X. However, I don't expect you to decide straight away." __________________ Mr Ambassador, alias Ancient Plax, alias Captain Therapy, alias Big Poppa, alias Secret Spy, etc. Add that to your tattoo, Baby! |
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No kidding. I am so sorry your t made this decision and handled it like this.
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I"m so sorry this happened to you. This happened to me after 7 years with a therapist who clearly couldn't help me. It does get better, although I know that's not much relief right now. Keep posting, we are here for you!
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I'm so sorry this happened to you. The same thing happened to me with a therapist after 8 years. I still can't bring myself to go back into therapy although I know I need too. It's terrible when something like this happens, especially to someone with abandonment issues. I don't understand how they believe this is acceptable patient care.
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