Couch 183: Stroopwafel salted caramel.

Lemoncake · Dec 03, 2018 at 12:17 PM

I stopped watching 1983, switched to underground. Going to start studying in a bit.

velcro003 · Dec 03, 2018 at 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I feel like self-harming right now and it’s a crisis to me.

You’re looking at the trees, not the forest. Your frequent desire to self-harm and then doing it is an ongoing crisis to your therapist. You can’t look at each incident separately and you can’t say it’s a crisis only if it’s a medical crisis; it’s a psychological crisis.

you could be right i suppose.

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Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

I didnt know self harm was a thing of concern until i joined this forum. I dont think it is important enough to tell my t. Its just something ido.

yeah it’s sort of how i think about it.

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Originally Posted by RaineD

I don't think it's a crisis either. I don't do it often anymore. These days I'll go years without doing it. Recently I did it once when I knew my therapist was definitely going to die and twice more after he died. Haven't done it in a few weeks, probably won't do it again is my guess.

For me, it's a coping mechanism. Not a good one and less and less effective as I get older. But not a crisis at all.

ETA: I also don't get anywhere close to the point of having to go to the hospital. I'm fairly careful not to leave permanent scars even.

yeah it’s a coping mechanism for me as well, and i don’t really leave scars either.

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

For me, SH was a sign of a crisis. It was a coping skill I used when nothing else helped. I knew there wasn't much coping afterwards, so it was definitely a warning sign.

I think when you still actively use SH, you can't see how unhealthy it is. Like other addictions too. So to you, it's okay, but in reality it's not.

i think you might be right-it does have an addictive quality to it.

SlumberKitty · Dec 03, 2018 at 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn

heh well.... i'm getting my mojo back. when i started working at home which was exactly when all the overtime started and son announced he was moving out and I decided to leave therapy all at the same damn time (which I have not done yet of course, no surprise there haha) i stopped feeling my feeeeeelings and started eating them again and gained about 8 lbs back. BUT! since t and i got me feeling again i've started walking every day again and lost back half of what i gained so I'm almost back to the point where i can start losing again.

(sorry you asked? haha!)

Nice to see you back Artie.

Lemoncake · Dec 03, 2018 at 01:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

I stopped watching 1983, switched to underground. Going to start studying in a bit.

Yep still not started- I'm now watching big meets bigger.

SlumberKitty · Dec 03, 2018 at 01:27 PM

Hi everyone! Back after the weekend, got caught up on the couch. (((hugs))) to anyone that wants one! Got my Christmas cards written and sent, and did my wrapping (except for stocking stuffers). I feel much less stressed! Kit.

LonesomeTonight · Dec 03, 2018 at 02:21 PM

My T self-disclosed considerably more than normal today, and I'm trying to decide how I feel about it...I think I get nervous about it because of ex-MC. But it was directly related to stuff we were discussing about my D, not totally random. And it made me feel understood and connected. Still...

SlumberKitty · Dec 03, 2018 at 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

My T self-disclosed considerably more than normal today, and I'm trying to decide how I feel about it...I think I get nervous about it because of ex-MC. But it was directly related to stuff we were discussing about my D, not totally random. And it made me feel understood and connected. Still...

Self disclosure was always sort of weird for me when T would do that. I mean it was sort of confusing. I kind of liked it. I was kind of bothered by it. I kind of saw how it related to me. I kind of wondered why she was bringing it up. So I get that you have to try to decide how you feel about it, LT. I never could make up my mind how I felt about it. I felt too much different stuff about it. Kit.

SlumberKitty · Dec 03, 2018 at 02:30 PM

T appointment in two days. Looking forward to it and not looking forward to it at the same time. Weird. I hate once a month. It's like not enough to get something rolling, and it's too long in between, then again, I don't talk a lot. Kit.

03:18 PM

Its a beautiful day outside... I wanna go out and play!

SheHulk07 · Dec 03, 2018 at 03:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

I hope you're feeling a smidge better this morning.

I really hoped I would be, instead I'm just drowning in horrible, dark thoughts that are just consuming me.

Lemoncake · Dec 03, 2018 at 03:31 PM

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

I really hoped I would be, instead I'm just drowning in horrible, dark thoughts that are just consuming me.

Are you safe? Do you have anything to distract you-even if it's just mindless TV? Can you curl up in bed? Eat something nice?

atisketatasket · Dec 03, 2018 at 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Nothing bodes better for a student’s final exam performance than when they email you the night before the final asking when it is.

It’s not like it hasn’t been mentioned in class repeatedly and it’s not like the information isn’t all over the course website and it’s not like the university doesn’t post a final exam schedule. Oh no.

It is a even worse sign if they do it 27 minutes before the exam starts.

SlumberKitty · Dec 03, 2018 at 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

It is a even worse sign if they do it 27 minutes before the exam starts.

Oh goodness!

StressedMess · Dec 03, 2018 at 04:29 PM

Whew, what a day! Hey couchies, I'm passing out relaxing drinks and comfort foods if anyone needs any. I could go for a hot chocolate even though the a/c is on right now. Also a sign that I never check the weather, I'm making chili tonight. Go me!

SlumberKitty · Dec 03, 2018 at 04:33 PM

Worker's comp audit next week at work. Yeah. (Sarcasm) Can't contain my excitement (more sarcasm). At least this year, I know what to expect. Unfortunately, it's the day after my trip to Disneyland, so I'll be thinking about that when I'm riding Pirates of the Caribbean! Kit.

SlumberKitty · Dec 03, 2018 at 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by StressedMess

Whew, what a day! Hey couchies, I'm passing out relaxing drinks and comfort foods if anyone needs any. I could go for a hot chocolate even though the a/c is on right now. Also a sign that I never check the weather, I'm making chili tonight. Go me!

Hot chocolate with whipped cream sounds pretty good to me! It's around 50 degrees here today so not cold, but sweater weather at least.

Kit.

ArtleyWilkins · Dec 03, 2018 at 04:41 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Nothing bodes better for a student’s final exam performance than when they email you the night before the final asking when it is.

It’s not like it hasn’t been mentioned in class repeatedly and it’s not like the information isn’t all over the course website and it’s not like the university doesn’t post a final exam schedule. Oh no.

I'm feeling your end of the semester pain. I am ready to be done with this group. They aren't horrible, but they are testing my patience. I'm sure the feeling is mutual. LOL

LonesomeTonight · Dec 03, 2018 at 04:49 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

Self disclosure was always sort of weird for me when T would do that. I mean it was sort of confusing. I kind of liked it. I was kind of bothered by it. I kind of saw how it related to me. I kind of wondered why she was bringing it up. So I get that you have to try to decide how you feel about it, LT. I never could make up my mind how I felt about it. I felt too much different stuff about it. Kit.

Glad you understand. Ex-MC did it ALL the time, like multiple things a session. I know way too much about his family (mainly his kids, but also a couple siblings), his college and grad school days, his time as a camp counselor, etc. I think it definitely contributed to the transference, particularly the stuff about his kids.

Current T doesn't tend to self-disclose much (particularly not about his son), and wouldn't answer/dodged certain questions I asked him early on (like political beliefs and type of car he drove, though he ultimately revealed those just in general conversation--still evasive about his religion, though I'm 99% sure he's Jewish). So that's part of why today threw me, since it *was* a bit about his son and also some of his thoughts on the causes of autism (his son and my D are both on the spectrum). Hm, and something about his grad school experience, too. It's like part of me wants to know more, for him to share more, but part of me is afraid of it and the effect it could have on me.

Dec 03, 2018 at 05:26 PM

I don't want to work this afternoon. 35 more minutes though I guess I can do it...
That's not much at all with almost 9.5 hrs already done.... tired of all this OT but I do admit I like the paychecks!

SlumberKitty · Dec 03, 2018 at 05:32 PM

Art, I don't want to work either, I have 2.0 hours left. Bleh. Kit.

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Lemoncake Luna's offical mini me. Member Since May 2017 Location: Cafe Nervosa. Posts: 9,697 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.2k hugs given	Dec 03, 2018 at 12:17 PM #201 I stopped watching 1983, switched to underground. Going to start studying in a bit. __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing."

SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Dec 03, 2018 at 01:27 PM #205 Hi everyone! Back after the weekend, got caught up on the couch. (((hugs))) to anyone that wants one! Got my Christmas cards written and sent, and did my wrapping (except for stocking stuffers). I feel much less stressed! Kit.

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,744 (SuperPoster!) 9 74.9k hugs given	Dec 03, 2018 at 02:21 PM #206 My T self-disclosed considerably more than normal today, and I'm trying to decide how I feel about it...I think I get nervous about it because of ex-MC. But it was directly related to stuff we were discussing about my D, not totally random. And it made me feel understood and connected. Still...

SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Dec 03, 2018 at 02:30 PM #208 T appointment in two days. Looking forward to it and not looking forward to it at the same time. Weird. I hate once a month. It's like not enough to get something rolling, and it's too long in between, then again, I don't talk a lot. Kit.

Anonymous43207 Guest Posts: n/a	Dec 03, 2018 at 02:48 PM #209 Its a beautiful day outside... I wanna go out and play! Last edited by Anonymous43207; Dec 03, 2018 at 03:18 PM..

StressedMess Grand Magnate Member Since Jul 2014 Location: Usa Posts: 3,068 9 589 hugs given	Dec 03, 2018 at 04:29 PM #214 Whew, what a day! Hey couchies, I'm passing out relaxing drinks and comfort foods if anyone needs any. I could go for a hot chocolate even though the a/c is on right now. Also a sign that I never check the weather, I'm making chili tonight. Go me!

SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Dec 03, 2018 at 04:33 PM #215 Worker's comp audit next week at work. Yeah. (Sarcasm) Can't contain my excitement (more sarcasm). At least this year, I know what to expect. Unfortunately, it's the day after my trip to Disneyland, so I'll be thinking about that when I'm riding Pirates of the Caribbean! Kit.

Anonymous43207 Guest Posts: n/a	Dec 03, 2018 at 05:26 PM #219 I don't want to work this afternoon. 35 more minutes though I guess I can do it... That's not much at all with almost 9.5 hrs already done.... tired of all this OT but I do admit I like the paychecks!

SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Dec 03, 2018 at 05:32 PM #220 Art, I don't want to work either, I have 2.0 hours left. Bleh. Kit.