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Default Dec 15, 2018 at 03:27 PM
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Dear ex T, I really really miss you. For the first time in 10 years you haven’t sent me a Christmas card which you usually send in the first week of December.. for some reason even though I know you are under no obligation to send one, it makes me miss you.
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Default Dec 15, 2018 at 06:03 PM
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Aaaaaaargh argharghargh etc
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Default Dec 15, 2018 at 09:23 PM
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Dear ex-MC,
Pretty sure at this point you're not writing back. OK. I guess I'm just...nothing to you now. Or you're worried I'll file a complaint. Either way, it's not "I still care about you." I guess this was inevitable.

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Default Dec 15, 2018 at 09:36 PM
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Dear T,
I wish I could talk to you right now...
Love,

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Default Dec 15, 2018 at 09:41 PM
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Hey T,

My former therapist
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just published a book. Is that why she didn't want to deal with me anymore, so she could focus on her effing bibliography?

Possible trigger:
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Default Dec 15, 2018 at 11:48 PM
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Dear ex-MC,
Pretty sure at this point you're not writing back. OK. I guess I'm just...nothing to you now. Or you're worried I'll file a complaint. Either way, it's not "I still care about you." I guess this was inevitable.

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LT—I know it hurts, but another way to look at it might be, “if you love someone, let them go.” It doesn’t feel like it, I know from No. 3, but long term it might be best for you if he doesn’t respond.
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Default Dec 15, 2018 at 11:59 PM
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I see you in three days and I don't know what to talk about. Should I tell you straight to your face I don't intend to recover from my ED? Should I focus on how the crushing airless vacuum of depression follows me wherever I go? (Even my grandma's house... shouldn't everyone be able to feel safe and happy with their grandma?!?!)

But I'm driving 5 hours round trip just to see you, so I better pick something good to talk about

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Default Dec 16, 2018 at 02:17 AM
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T, it's pretty crazy lately huh. I don't really understand what's going on. We want to run, we want to hurt, we want to punish. This rage is so close.
Thank you for being patient. For tolerating me. Us.
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Default Dec 16, 2018 at 05:00 AM
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Hey T,

My former therapist
Possible trigger:
just published a book. Is that why she didn't want to deal with me anymore, so she could focus on her effing bibliography?

Possible trigger:


She can still be an "expert" and an awful T.

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We can live in The Chocolate Factory!
Only if it's Wonka's. Who wouldn't want the scent of whipple scrumptious fudgemallow delights every day and a chocolate waterfall?

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Default Dec 16, 2018 at 05:22 AM
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Dear T,

I'm tired, just very tired.

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She can still be an "expert" and an awful T.
She can also get published without being anything close to an expert.
 
 
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Default Dec 16, 2018 at 07:28 AM
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I agreed to a three some with my roommate and my fwb. even tho I'm pretty sure I don't wanna do that. I agreed as always. last time I did threesome and even foursomes was with my former therapist. why can't I say no?? I've been trained to agree to whatever I guess. I want to break that pattern. or just go back to being celibate. which seems more appealing and less traumatic.

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Default Dec 16, 2018 at 07:38 AM
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I agreed to a three some with my roommate and my fwb. even tho I'm pretty sure I don't wanna do that. I agreed as always. last time I did threesome and even foursomes was with my former therapist. why can't I say no?? I've been trained to agree to whatever I guess. I want to break that pattern. or just go back to being celibate. which seems more appealing and less traumatic.
Not too late to say no. Just say you re-considered and rather not do it after all.
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Not too late to say no. Just say you re-considered and rather not do it after all.

I was thinking the same. It's OK to change your mind. Even if you decide to go through with it, and partway through it feels wrong, you can just say you want to stop, and they should respect that.
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LT—I know it hurts, but another way to look at it might be, “if you love someone, let them go.” It doesn’t feel like it, I know from No. 3, but long term it might be best for you if he doesn’t respond.

You're probably right that long-term it could be better for me if he doesn't keep engaging with me. I guess I just wish he'd say that. Like, "I think it's best if I don't engage with this anymore. Please talk to Dr. T." It will hurt, but somehow silence feels worse right now. And that would stop me from holding out hope about a response now or later. Maybe that's part of why the silence is bad, because part of me is thinking "He might just be really busy and will reply in a week." or "Maybe he's just trying to figure out what to say." That would stop the part of me that's hopefully looking toward my email.
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Default Dec 16, 2018 at 09:12 AM
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I hate thinking of things I want to tell you but remember I can't now. It's gonna be so hard to get used to not talking every week. Not hearing your laugh and your corny jokes and interesting stories. I looked forward to all that.

I hope someday, somehow, we meet again. I hope you enjoy your new job.

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She can still be an "expert" and an awful T.
Thanks, Lemon

I think the kicker is that it felt like we were doing good therapy while I was seeing her but then she decided she'd had enough--so it's not like she's bad at the act of therapy, just bad at stewarding her vulnerable patients
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need a nap asap

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Thanks, Lemon

I think the kicker is that it felt like we were doing good therapy while I was seeing her but then she decided she'd had enough--so it's not like she's bad at the act of therapy, just bad at stewarding her vulnerable patients

Well, but I think that's an important part of being a good therapist, being able to handle vulnerable patients.
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