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Three or for times over the years I sent T a card with a gift card to her favorite restaurant. By mailing it I felt it took away the awkwardness for the both of us. After the first one we discussed it at my next appointment. The rest of the times she emailed me a thank you and then said it again at our next appointment
I'm thinking it will be a bit awkward for me to come into her waiting room with the wrapped thing in my hand... but I don't really care, though
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Three or for times over the years I sent T a card with a gift card to her favorite restaurant. By mailing it I felt it took away the awkwardness for the both of us. After the first one we discussed it at my next appointment. The rest of the times she emailed me a thank you and then said it again at our next appointment
I had to mail it to her, because she is out on extended medical leave, and I don't know when I'll see her again. I included a little note with it, wishing her good health now, and in the coming year.
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My long time t is Jewish but her birthday is soon. I made her a card and bought her 2 small crystals from a crystal store. Neither of us are into new age stuff but the slips of paper explaining each crystal felt so meaningful. Plus they're pretty. Im hoping she'll like them.
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I wish my T was still alive so I can get him something.
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In the past I have had a tower of nuts & dried fruits from "Harry & Davids" mailed to the office. I always keep it anonymous as I do not do well with awkward feelings. It is always a tricky issue when it comes to gifts to therapist. I was telling him about the gifts I was buying my personal training clients and he mentioned that it was unethical to get them gifts. I said no it would be unethical for his profession to buy clients gifts.

I am not getting him a gift.
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Just got a text from her cancelling our session because she’s not feeling well. I am a little sad cause I had to leave the house early so I am dragging the thing around. Guess she’s not getting anything after all
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Would it be weird to drop the gift off at the clinic for her secretary to give it to her tomorrow? Could really use some advice on this
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Would it be weird to drop the gift off at the clinic for her secretary to give it to her tomorrow? Could really use some advice on this
Personally if it wasn't out of your way,I wouldn't think it was weird at all.Perhaps you could give it to her in your next session?
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Personally if it wasn't out of your way,I wouldn't think it was weird at all.Perhaps you could give it to her in your next session?
Thanks! The only problem is that today would be my last session of the year with her. If she can't find me another time this week, I'll only get to see her next year, when the gift wouldn't really make sense, since it's a pair of oven mittens with a Christmassy theme.... I'm so sad. But also worried about her. I didn't ask what was wrong.

I walked by the clinic, and I almost went inside to give it to her secretary.... but I decided not to. Oh well....
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I gave my T a Christmas card. She seemed to appreciate it a lot. Kit
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