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Default Dec 11, 2018 at 02:21 PM
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I think it's okay to drop it off. Or you could mail it.
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Thanks! The only problem is that today would be my last session of the year with her. If she can't find me another time this week, I'll only get to see her next year, when the gift wouldn't really make sense, since it's a pair of oven mittens with a Christmassy theme.... I'm so sad. But also worried about her. I didn't ask what was wrong.

I walked by the clinic, and I almost went inside to give it to her secretary.... but I decided not to. Oh well....

It's okay if you decided not to give it today. I still wear my Christmas pajamas outside of the main season, I think similarly the mitts would still make sense= be used and loved afterwards.

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It's okay if you decided not to give it today. I still wear my Christmas pajamas outside of the main season, I think similarly the mitts would still make sense= be used and loved afterwards.
Agreed. Its not so much the gift anyway, its the thought behind it that counts.
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Default Dec 11, 2018 at 05:37 PM
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I got myT two bottles of wine - one red and one white. The brand is “Therapy” and one of the bottles is called Freudian Sip and the other one...I forget but it’s something about Freud. And I wrote him a really sincere, heartfelt card. I’m seeing him over the holidays - we’re not taking time off but I’m going to give it to him on Thursday just cause I’m excited to haha.
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Default Dec 12, 2018 at 04:50 AM
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It's interesting to see the number of T's who do except gifts. I just assumed in general most did not

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Default Dec 12, 2018 at 05:08 AM
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My T accepts gifts. Not sure about Christmas gifts, but general gifts that aren't too expensive. She prefers the personally made gifts. I don't gift her for holidays though. We barely even acknowledge holidays/birthdays.

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Default Dec 12, 2018 at 05:14 AM
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I generally only buy presents for my work secret Santa and my church group's white elephant exchange. My family doesn't do gifts anymore (we did when were kids, but now all the kids are grown up). I find it a relief. I hate shopping. It stresses me out.
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I got myT two bottles of wine - one red and one white. The brand is “Therapy” and one of the bottles is called Freudian Sip and the other one...I forget but it’s something about Freud. And I wrote him a really sincere, heartfelt card. I’m seeing him over the holidays - we’re not taking time off but I’m going to give it to him on Thursday just cause I’m excited to haha.


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Update: T just sent me a message asking me how my big thing had gone. I replied and took the opportunity to ask how she was doing, and then I told her how I was expecting to give her the gift yesterday, and asked, if there's no possibility of us meeting before the break (I'll be out from this Saturday to New Years'. She's taking an extra week for summer vacations), if there was any way that I could give it to her, even if I didn't have a session.
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Default Dec 13, 2018 at 01:38 PM
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This morning her secretary called me and said that one person wouldn't be able to make it to their session, and asked me if I wanted to come then. I said yes, and I did.

Just came back from the session, and I gave her the oven mittens.

As I was waiting for her, there was this kid in the waiting room, along with his mother. The mom was also carrying something in a gift bag. The little boy's T came out before mine did, and I watched as he gave her a box of chocolates. Then I started questioning my gift, feeling like a little kid giving their preschool teacher a gift to be acknowledged.

Right about then, my T comes out and I give her my bag, and I immediately express my feelings of embarrassment. I told her exactly this, "Now I feel like a little kid giving you a present to obtain your approval". She said, "Oh, don't you feel like that. Thanks!" She complimented the bag, I said it was a bit extravagant. Once we were inside her office, she opened the bag (with some difficulty, I must point out) and said, "Oh, these are cute! Thank you!! I love Christmas-decorated things!" then we moved on to the session.

Oh well, see you January 15th, T. Have a good break!
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I'm so glad she liked it imnotbroken! Kit
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Default Dec 13, 2018 at 01:47 PM
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I gave my T his gift this morning. He was very grateful. I was most pleased with what I wrote in the card. The wine was just extra.
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This morning her secretary called me and said that one person wouldn't be able to make it to their session, and asked me if I wanted to come then. I said yes, and I did.

Just came back from the session, and I gave her the oven mittens.

As I was waiting for her, there was this kid in the waiting room, along with his mother. The mom was also carrying something in a gift bag. The little boy's T came out before mine did, and I watched as he gave her a box of chocolates. Then I started questioning my gift, feeling like a little kid giving their preschool teacher a gift to be acknowledged.

Right about then, my T comes out and I give her my bag, and I immediately express my feelings of embarrassment. I told her exactly this, "Now I feel like a little kid giving you a present to obtain your approval". She said, "Oh, don't you feel like that. Thanks!" She complimented the bag, I said it was a bit extravagant. Once we were inside her office, she opened the bag (with some difficulty, I must point out) and said, "Oh, these are cute! Thank you!! I love Christmas-decorated things!" then we moved on to the session.

Oh well, see you January 15th, T. Have a good break!
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Default Dec 13, 2018 at 02:07 PM
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I added a small gift card.It's in the shape of a bookmark, so would go with the reading theme. I know it sounds OTT but it just felt right to me.

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I added a small gift card.It's in the shape of a bookmark, so would go with the reading theme. I know it sounds OTT but it just felt right to me.
Sounds nice.
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I am giving my T Freudian Slippers (house shoes that look like a cartoon Freud). He has a really corny sense of humor, so I think he will laugh. Last year I gave him baked goods.

I am really glad she liked your Christmas gift. It sounds like you have a good relationship.
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Default Dec 13, 2018 at 09:39 PM
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Somehow I never gave holiday gifts to former T, but I have to current T. I think in part because it's easier to come up with ideas for a female T. After spending so many years overseas, I've collected a lot of little gifts, so I'll choose something from my stash.
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I just today mailed former T a handmade Christmas card because I made her one every year. Even though she's not my T anymore, I wanted to send her one. I wondered if she thought she wasn't going to get one. Kit
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I mailed my T her Christmas present. As some of you know, she is out on medical leave. So, anyway, she said *I* could text her as much as I want, but she would not answer every text. That hurt at first, but I understand why she had to do that. But, back to the gift?! I sort of expected her to reach out and say "thank you," but she didn't. Then I thought maybe it got lost in the mail. Either way, I had to know. We had talked about this gift for a few weeks before she went out on medical leave (She had surgery in mid-November.), but I don't know if she thought I would send it to her. So, finally, a little scared, I texted her and asked her if she received a package from me, and she said, "Yes, thank you for the lovely [gift]." I felt relieved, happy, and a little annoyed, all at the same time. I'm glad the package got to her. I'm happy because of the nature of the gift (Don't want to say details here), but I'm annoyed because I had to ask her if she got it. Shouldn't she have just started a text to me, "Cool, thank you for the lovely gift." And maybe some other sentiment? December is an extremely hard month for me, for a variety of reasons, and she knows that, and all she could say was,
"Yes, thank you for the lovely [gift]?" My feelings are a little hurt. Comments?
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I mailed my T her Christmas present. As some of you know, she is out on medical leave. So, anyway, she said *I* could text her as much as I want, but she would not answer every text. That hurt at first, but I understand why she had to do that. But, back to the gift?! I sort of expected her to reach out and say "thank you," but she didn't. Then I thought maybe it got lost in the mail. Either way, I had to know. We had talked about this gift for a few weeks before she went out on medical leave (She had surgery in mid-November.), but I don't know if she thought I would send it to her. So, finally, a little scared, I texted her and asked her if she received a package from me, and she said, "Yes, thank you for the lovely [gift]." I felt relieved, happy, and a little annoyed, all at the same time. I'm glad the package got to her. I'm happy because of the nature of the gift (Don't want to say details here), but I'm annoyed because I had to ask her if she got it. Shouldn't she have just started a text to me, "Cool, thank you for the lovely gift." And maybe some other sentiment? December is an extremely hard month for me, for a variety of reasons, and she knows that, and all she could say was,
"Yes, thank you for the lovely [gift]?" My feelings are a little hurt. Comments?

I think the way you feel is perfectly normal. The very first gift I gave R he didn't mention it which lead to a loooooong rupture.It wasn't about being thanked, but just acknowledged. I tend to be an anxious person. I'd worry that it might not have arrived too.

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