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Yeah: it's just rude. I don't think it's personal about you, I think it just reflects poorly on your T.
But there does seem to be a generational shift, at least in US culture. I've always received a hand written card/thank you note from my Ts when I'v given a gift. But my Ts were always older than me, of generations that were brought up to do so. I was brought up the same way: from childhood, thank-you notes were written a couple of days after Christmas to demonstrate appreciation to those who cared to send a gift. It was part of the rhythm of the holidays. Judging from what I hear from a lot of people, it's much less common now. I think it's sad, and it would bother me. |
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This is my 3rd Christmas with my T. The first year I got her a card game that I thought she'd really enjoy based on a comic set I had shared with her and she liked. I was really nervous as it was the first gift I gave her. She was working at a clinic with a large health center. I was not sure if she was even allowed to get it. It was a kick starter. I ordered it really early and it was supposed to arrive by Dec 1. It was late and didn't arrive until the middle of Jan. That year, every time I turned I found something I wanted to give her.
Last year, I didn't even think about it until Dec. At first, I wasn't sure if I would get her anything, then the younger parts started pointing things out. I ended up getting her 3 separate gifts, one from each of my younger parts - a remote control car for age group 4-6, magnetic thinking putty, and a jigsaw puzzle. This year, again I wasn't sure I would get her anything. I did settle on a book about micro terrariums and a Groupon for a class at a terrarium shop. I'm not sure if I should have got it or not. I'm also now in a weird place where I'm not sure if I got her something because not getting her something would be just as weird as getting her something. |
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My T is 8 years older than I am. Big Cool is chalking it up to T just not feeling well in her recovery from cancer surgery. But you can bet it will be on the list of things I will talk to her about, the next time I see her. |
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