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do you ever give christmas cards or gifts to your therapist- and does your therapist ever give anything to you?
my therapists (for the most part) don't give gifts or cards. they do, however allow extra time- or some other treat in session that they know I like (which I've mentioned to them in the year) |
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No. I would not accept anything from a therapist and saw no reason to give them anything. I paid them rent for the time they sat there and I left. The time of year would not have made a difference to me on that policy.
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No and no. I've never wanted to give a christmas card or gift to my T and it would feel very weird if he would attempt to give something to me. I feel that our relationship is outside of the realm of sort of "normal" relationships and exchanging cards and/or gifts for christmas just does not belong to that realm. He tried to wish me merry christmas and I had to tell him to stop it.
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Gifts carry a lot of old baggage for me from childhood.
So I don't give gives to T. Nor a card. I just give her a nod and say hope you have a nice Xmas as I leave. |
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I gave my T a gift - two bottles of wine and a heartfelt card.
He didn't give me anything but I wouldn't expect him to. He gives so much of himself all year. BTW - there are already a couple threads about this. |
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I gave him a handmade gift this year but not a card. He gave me a card. It's the first time he's ever given me a card.
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I haven’t been to therapy in years, but the last time I was in therapy during the holiday season-I gave that therapist and small plate of cookies from the bakery. I would never give anything personal or of high value. The cookie tray was no different than something I would offer a mailman, dog walker, and so on.
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I have given and received many gifts from t
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We give gifts to each other for ChristmAs and birthdays.
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I've never given or received anything other than greetings (and a "holiday hug" from ex-T). I did send a nice sort of thank-you email to ex-T and ex-MC like 2 Christmas Eves ago comparing them to my guardian angels (so much for that!). Ex-MC is Jewish and I *think* current T is. So after reciprocating T's "Merry Christmas" when leaving session, I sent him an email saying I didn't actually know what he celebrated so hoped it didn't bother him, but of course it didn't.
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I gave my t a card this year. It’s the first time I have and he accepted it. He didn’t give me one in return but I didn’t expect him to. I just wanted to say thanks for stuff. It felt nice.
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#12
No, never. I don't think we have that kind of relationship.
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#13
I have given my T little gifts and cards sometimes, this holiday season I did give her something. I have also received some little things from my T.
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I made my t a Christmas cake & decorated it with fondant icing & made a fondant reindeer with a red nose. He always gets embarrassed, but knows how much it means to my inner child to give him a gift, & play a part in making it. He doesn’t give me one, but I’m pleased about that because that to me, wouldn’t feel right.
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T never gives me presents but I always give her one at Christmas.
This year I gave her a few small things rather than one big one! She kinda gave out to me, it was quite funny |
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I used to exchange gifts with my ex-T for both the holidays and birthdays. Not small gifts either - not after the first year. I think most of the gifts I gave him were over $100.
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I've never given a gift to any of my therapists and have never received a gift from them. It'd have felt very awkward to me to do that. I always wanted to keep the relationship strictly professional. I, probably, would've given some of them a card or something small and symbolic if I ever felt that they were operating from the place of transparency and integrity, but I never felt that. Besides, when someone charges me an arm and a leg, that's way too sobering for me to look at the relationship in a personal way. Paying the fees I was paying, I felt I was giving them way too much already for the quality of service I was getting.
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