Therapist leaving

winterblues17 · Dec 12, 2018 at 02:25 PM

How did u deal with therapist quitting on u? Mine did!

SlumberKitty · Dec 12, 2018 at 02:26 PM

I cried and cried and cried. I still grieve the loss. Kit.

winterblues17 · Dec 12, 2018 at 02:34 PM

I don't really understand the point of it all. U get close, u trust, for what?

winterblues17 · Dec 12, 2018 at 02:34 PM

You get another one and start the same cycle all over again?

doogie · Dec 12, 2018 at 02:35 PM

Same as above. It was absolutely heartbreaking and I grieved for her as if she had actually died. However, it's been 3 years now and I can say it gets easier. I probably wouldn't have believed that when the hurt was so fresh, though. So sorry for your loss.

Doogie

winterblues17 · Dec 12, 2018 at 02:38 PM

Thank you both for response... did u find another? I don't see the point. These ppl the same as ppl in general just let u down! It's a vicious cycle

SlumberKitty · Dec 12, 2018 at 02:43 PM

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Originally Posted by winterblues17

Thank you both for response... did u find another? I don't see the point. These ppl the same as ppl in general just let u down! It's a vicious cycle

Yes, I found another T but I'm seeing her less frequently, no contact between sessions, and trying to not get attached in any way. I want help but I don't want to go through that heartbreak again. I'm trying to protect myself in the relationship, so I have no idea if therapy will work this way or not. My former T did so much for me and I grew so much, but her leaving me almost killed me. Kit

winterblues17 · Dec 12, 2018 at 02:49 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

Yes, I found another T but I'm seeing her less frequently, no contact between sessions, and trying to not get attached in any way. I want help but I don't want to go through that heartbreak again. I'm trying to protect myself in the relationship, so I have no idea if therapy will work this way or not. My former T did so much for me and I grew so much, but her leaving me almost killed me. Kit

Yeah I understand! I feel the same way, I have a few sessions left, but I honestly don't think I can go through it again. It may be alcohol fuelled right now but I honestly don't get it all, I really trusted this person to not let me down like everyone else, and she's proved me right, ppl are not to be trustworthy so what's the point of it all

SlumberKitty · Dec 12, 2018 at 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by winterblues17

Yeah I understand! I feel the same way, I have a few sessions left, but I honestly don't think I can go through it again. It may be alcohol fuelled right now but I honestly don't get it all, I really trusted this person to not let me down like everyone else, and she's proved me right, ppl are not to be trustworthy so what's the point of it all

I wish I knew. I'm depressed myself at the moment, so it's hard to see that "silver lining." I do think that people can be trustworthy generally and yet still let us down. I had a friend let me down in a big way on Monday and it took a couple of days to get over it but I'm starting to. I wish I could be more positive about what the point is. I'm sure there is one. I think there's a chance of success at therapy and that's what I am hopeful for.

Kit

winterblues17 · Dec 12, 2018 at 03:18 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

I wish I knew. I'm depressed myself at the moment, so it's hard to see that "silver lining." I do think that people can be trustworthy generally and yet still let us down. I had a friend let me down in a big way on Monday and it took a couple of days to get over it but I'm starting to. I wish I could be more positive about what the point is. I'm sure there is one. I think there's a chance of success at therapy and that's what I am hopeful for.

Kit

I'm sorry your friend let u down, I think sometimes it's not done purposely but it still hurts right! I hope you can find a way with therapy and moving forward, I think partly it's the wanting to move forward, maybe I don't really want to anymore. Just kinda seems pointless for me.
I can see how therapy works for people, I really can. I just think some people (myself) it seems unfixable so I don't see the point in trying anymore, 1 step toward, 2 back kinda thing. I wish you all the best though

Taylor27 · Dec 12, 2018 at 04:12 PM

Hugs i cried and cried for a long time when my t quit on me hugs

DP_2017 · Dec 12, 2018 at 08:19 PM

Mine is leaving too. Last session tomorrow. I think I'll vomit...

guilloche · Dec 12, 2018 at 09:53 PM

I'm so sorry. I had a T terminate me at one point, because after a year he realized that he wasn't able to help with my issues (I got the whole "it would be unethical for me to continue seeing you" speech - which just felt absolutely insane to me.)

It was really hard, even though I wasn't that attached! Stirred up lots of abandonment feelings, and feelings like I was "too much" (which I still struggle with).

I was lucky, I was on my way to grad school - so was starting a new, busy life. I focused on that.

I've tried other therapists, but still haven't found any that really click with me. I'm not sure what I'm going to do at this point... it's really frustrating.

Did you have a final session? Were you able to talk to them about how this feels? For some people, that seems to help - to be able to express the anger, disappointment, sadness, and whatever else you're feeling and to get some closure, maybe?

*hugs*

DP_2017 · Dec 15, 2018 at 09:25 AM

How are you doing, OP?

My T is officially gone and it sucks. I was ok for like half a day but now I'm miserable and I only picture him, happy and heck, moved on and I'm nothing

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winterblues17 Member Member Since Nov 2017 Location: UK Posts: 379 6 62 hugs given	Dec 12, 2018 at 02:25 PM #1 How did u deal with therapist quitting on u? Mine did!
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SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Dec 12, 2018 at 02:26 PM #2 I cried and cried and cried. I still grieve the loss. Kit.
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winterblues17 Member Member Since Nov 2017 Location: UK Posts: 379 6 62 hugs given	Dec 12, 2018 at 02:34 PM #3 I don't really understand the point of it all. U get close, u trust, for what?
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winterblues17 Member Member Since Nov 2017 Location: UK Posts: 379 6 62 hugs given	Dec 12, 2018 at 02:34 PM #4 You get another one and start the same cycle all over again?
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doogie Member Member Since Mar 2010 Posts: 405 14 5 hugs given	Dec 12, 2018 at 02:35 PM #5 Same as above. It was absolutely heartbreaking and I grieved for her as if she had actually died. However, it's been 3 years now and I can say it gets easier. I probably wouldn't have believed that when the hurt was so fresh, though. So sorry for your loss. Doogie
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winterblues17 Member Member Since Nov 2017 Location: UK Posts: 379 6 62 hugs given	Dec 12, 2018 at 02:38 PM #6 Thank you both for response... did u find another? I don't see the point. These ppl the same as ppl in general just let u down! It's a vicious cycle
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Taylor27 healing from trauma Member Since Dec 2017 Location: Alberta Posts: 30,425 (SuperPoster!) 6 24.3k hugs given	Dec 12, 2018 at 04:12 PM #11 Hugs i cried and cried for a long time when my t quit on me hugs
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DP_2017 Grand Magnate Member Since Aug 2017 Location: A house Posts: 4,412 6 665 hugs given	Dec 12, 2018 at 08:19 PM #12 Mine is leaving too. Last session tomorrow. I think I'll vomit... __________________ Grief is the price you pay for love.
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DP_2017 Grand Magnate Member Since Aug 2017 Location: A house Posts: 4,412 6 665 hugs given	Dec 15, 2018 at 09:25 AM #14 How are you doing, OP? My T is officially gone and it sucks. I was ok for like half a day but now I'm miserable and I only picture him, happy and heck, moved on and I'm nothing __________________ Grief is the price you pay for love.
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