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#121
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Maybe I should print out the emails and have her sign it? But I'm not to big on writing a letter to myself. It would feel weird. I did it once with ex-T. I still have it somewhere... __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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#122
I'm so depressed. I'm probably only going to see T, at most, probably 8 more times! I don't want this to happen.
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#123
We covered a lot today: consent forms, questions for woman T, goals when I'm with woman T, dual sessions, if I'm a high risk client (yes and no), if I can be her last client on the last day she works (no), if I can see her the last 2 weeks (yes), if I can bring the rock and stuff animal for her to hold and "recharge" (yes), will she tell me the gender of the baby (yes), and if we can make a deal: I not cut and she tells me her birthday (no, we'll talk about it when she comes back). She said if I'm actively cutting or suicidal, then she might not see me right away when she comes back. She said that if I need to see her weekly, then she might not see me right away either. Honestly, I get the feeling that she's telling me she's not going to see me when she gets back no matter what happens. I need to talk to her more about this.
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#124
Here's the email I sent her tonight:
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#125
About the burden thing:
I don't like the word, to me is sounds too negative BUT if it was a word you picked, I understand the usage. But probably the meaning could be "extra work". Your T seems to be extremely honest. Even if she means you are extra work, she has not said she is not willing to do it. It is part of her work and she knows it, she doesn't deny it or object it. Maybe she meant that. |
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#126
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#127
Try to trust your T's judgement - you can wait to discuss it again. What skills have you practised before in difficult situations? What have you found helpful? What do you enjoy doing to get distracted? Maybe movies, reading, walking outdoors, whatever you do to calm down and enjoy. You can talk with her in session again and trust that she is truthful in what she says and answers. The interim T sounds promising too. You are in good hands, it is just a maternity leave, not an abandonment or the end of the world.
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#128
Without demeaning how difficult this is for you, another reason to wait until your next session is because she would like you to. This is a working relationship, which means that it is not exclusively about what you want or need. Considering her request and trying to accommodate her wishes are part of your job in a relationship. Could you write an email to her and instead of sending it, keep it in your draft mailbox, or print it out and save it and any others. It could be an exploration of what it's like for you to express your feelings to yourself and think about these things without asking her to do something else for you outside of session. It seems important for you to do because in a few months she will not be able to respond to you at all, so working towards the place where you can cope without emailing seems like it would be useful.
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#129
At first, I felt angry at your therapist about not seeing you weekly when she comes back. However, after more thought, here is what I think. If she were to see you weekly when she first comes back and is working fewer hours, that will most likely delay when another client can get back on her schedule. So it's not so much choosing another client over you, it's choosing as many of her clients as possible, including you. I don't know if that helps. Can you see the interim therapist on the off weeks?
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#131
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#132
That seems like a really good, caring response, Scarlet. How do you feel about it?
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#133
I feel good about it. I feel like she listened, understood, validated, and reassured me. I did find it very caring. It's a short response, but that's normal. I'm content with it.
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