Couch 187: Dry Cheerios

atisketatasket · Jan 15, 2019 at 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by DP_2017

Question for ladies....

So.. I have to get my annoying cyst drained unless it drains itself in the next few days... anyway... they have no openings but with male DR, normally I prefer men in almost anything but I've never had a guy touch me in that way.... and I have enough issues with touch as it is.... so for those who see a male OBGYN or have in the past... was it really bad? awkward? i feel like i might freak out

I had a male gyn for a while. I didn’t find it awkward or sexual at all. It just seemed like other doctor kind of touch.

unaluna · Jan 15, 2019 at 06:50 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I had a male gyn for a while. I didn’t find it awkward or sexual at all.

I prefer male gyns. I dont want ladies all up in my business unless they really wanna be there. Cuz ladies will give you that attitude. Whereas i find men dont - ever!

LonesomeTonight · Jan 15, 2019 at 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I had a male gyn for a while. I didn’t find it awkward or sexual at all. It just seemed like other doctor kind of touch.

Same here--also fine with him. Only changed when I got pregnant because he wasn't also an OB.

susannahsays · Jan 15, 2019 at 06:56 PM

I have not had a male gyn, as I insist on females. I find male gyns creepy. However, I have had to settle for a male urologist, since female ones are so rare. He was a monster and really hurt me.

DP_2017 · Jan 15, 2019 at 06:57 PM

Interesting replies. I just to get out of my head while I'm there lol...

susannahsays · Jan 15, 2019 at 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

I prefer male gyns. I dont want ladies all up in my business unless they really wanna be there. Cuz ladies will give you that attitude. Whereas i find men dont - ever!

So you want a man up in your business who really wants to be there? I guess it's whatever floats your boat. In my experience, male doctors in general are cocky and unempathetic. Other males in the medical profession - nurses, physicians assistants, etc., don't have this problem, just the MDs. Male pediatricians are also fine. But the others have a superiority complex and, I swear, secretly still believe in "womb madness" or whatever.

Jan 15, 2019 at 07:05 PM

I had a male GYN who had a crappy bedside manner but he was one out of several I tried. The rest were fine. I currently have a female GYN and she is great too.

LonesomeTonight · Jan 15, 2019 at 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by susannahsays

So you want a man up in your business who really wants to be there? I guess it's whatever floats your boat. In my experience, male doctors in general are cocky and unempathetic. Other males in the medical profession - nurses, physicians assistants, etc., don't have this problem, just the MDs. Male pediatricians are also fine. But the others have a superiority complex and, I swear, secretly still believe in "womb madness" or whatever.

It depends so much on the male doctor. My male Gyn was not like that at all.

Polibeth · Jan 15, 2019 at 07:10 PM

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Originally Posted by DP_2017

Question for ladies....

So.. I have to get my annoying cyst drained unless it drains itself in the next few days... anyway... they have no openings but with male DR, normally I prefer men in almost anything but I've never had a guy touch me in that way.... and I have enough issues with touch as it is.... so for those who see a male OBGYN or have in the past... was it really bad? awkward? i feel like i might freak out

I have had both female and male OB/GYN's. I found it was much more about their personality than their gender. I've had some excellent ones of both genders.

CantExplain · Jan 15, 2019 at 07:26 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

I prefer male gyns. I dont want ladies all up in my business unless they really wanna be there. Cuz ladies will give you that attitude. Whereas i find men dont - ever!

What kind of attitude?

susannahsays · Jan 15, 2019 at 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

It depends so much on the male doctor. My male Gyn was not like that at all.

I guess I've just had really bad luck with male doctors. It's not like I had one bad experience and then swore off them all. I think it may have to do having lived near two prestigious medical schools at the time. So the ones I got were particularly impressed with themselves and valued me as an average patient (and not a potential subject of their research) less. Still, I only had one female doctor who was dismissive (though not arrogant). The others were just fine (although my PCP was obsessed by abuse and took every opportunity to bring it up in conversation). After the horrendous, painful, physically damaging experience with the male urologist, I discovered the field of urogynecology and found a female urogynecologist who was able to help.

08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

What kind of attitude?

I think she means the “every woman” attitude “why are you wincing? It shouldn’t hurt that much” while I have found males to more sensitive to your pain tolerances

unaluna · Jan 15, 2019 at 08:27 PM

Young white male american student doctors in my area (geographic, not uh you know!) are pretty awful, IME. By female gyn attitude, i meant "mean girl", also, IME. Plus i think they think im a lesbian or trans, so they get weird with me.

stopdog · Jan 15, 2019 at 08:37 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I think she's comparing you to Julius Caesar.

I suppose that could be considered better than being compared to Caligula

atisketatasket · Jan 15, 2019 at 08:45 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

I suppose that could be considered better than being compared to Caligula

At least Caesar never built a temple and cult statue to himself and every morning have the priests dress the statue in the same outfit he was wearing that day. (My favorite Caligula story.)

Also Caesar had a much better assassination as those things go.

Hey, this is the third post mentioning Caligula on this Couch, that must be a record.

susannahsays · Jan 15, 2019 at 08:47 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Young white male american student doctors in my area (geographic, not uh you know!) are pretty awful, IME. By female gyn attitude, i meant "mean girl", also, IME. Plus i think they think im a lesbian or trans, so they get weird with me.

I didn't mean they were students, though I guess they were mostly relatively young - except for the urologist. I just meant they were affiliated with these prestigious medical schools/hospitals, and were up their own asses about it.

WarmFuzzySocks · Jan 15, 2019 at 09:02 PM

Ugh.

I have been wanting to find time to clean my pantry, but have barely been home...canceled my evening errands to clean because there was a mouse in the pantry last night. I was sure the pantry was unassailable. I think someone let the door open. BLEAH. Tiny sneaky little...critters is the first word that pops to mind that won't get *** out, and it took a few words to get to this one.

And right after a Couch discussion about mice, too. SheHulk, you're not alone in bleaching all the things.

In completely and wholly unrelated news (heh), Costco has sets of glass Mason jar canisters for about $20. At least my pantry will finally look as organized as it is.

WarmFuzzySocks · Jan 15, 2019 at 09:14 PM

P.S. This is apropos...My highest COPE score was Problem-focused coping- 75%

I got 91% in Active Coping: The process of taking active steps to try to remove or circumvent the stressor or to ameliorate its effects.

Time to go bleach more of the things and put food in jars.

velcro003 · Jan 15, 2019 at 09:30 PM

my male urologist is awesome, so there's that.

Anastasia~ · 09:45 PM

I hope you get rid of all of them. I plan on doing it at my house also.

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susannahsays Grand Magnate Member Since Jun 2018 Location: Somewhere Posts: 3,355 5 1 hugs given	Jan 15, 2019 at 06:56 PM #504 I have not had a male gyn, as I insist on females. I find male gyns creepy. However, I have had to settle for a male urologist, since female ones are so rare. He was a monster and really hurt me.

DP_2017 Grand Magnate Member Since Aug 2017 Location: A house Posts: 4,412 6 665 hugs given	Jan 15, 2019 at 06:57 PM #505 Interesting replies. I just to get out of my head while I'm there lol... __________________ Grief is the price you pay for love.

Anonymous53987 Guest Posts: n/a	Jan 15, 2019 at 07:05 PM #507 I had a male GYN who had a crappy bedside manner but he was one out of several I tried. The rest were fine. I currently have a female GYN and she is great too.

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,866 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.4k hugs given	Jan 15, 2019 at 08:27 PM #513 Young white male american student doctors in my area (geographic, not uh you know!) are pretty awful, IME. By female gyn attitude, i meant "mean girl", also, IME. Plus i think they think im a lesbian or trans, so they get weird with me.

velcro003 Elder Member Since Oct 2008 Posts: 7,361 15 25 hugs given	Jan 15, 2019 at 09:30 PM #519 my male urologist is awesome, so there's that.

Anastasia~ Poohbah Member Since Jul 2017 Location: Somewhere Posts: 1,019 6 5,296 hugs given	Jan 15, 2019 at 09:31 PM #520 I hope you get rid of all of them. I plan on doing it at my house also. __________________ Last edited by Anastasia~; Jan 15, 2019 at 09:45 PM..