Sooooo, my wondering/playing with the idea of not going wained.
I went. T brought up her not replying.

She said "I did reach out to you twice because i was concerned about you"

I replied "I know, but you also quickly obeyed my don't reply email"

T said "I am in no way shifting the blame here (she seemed very careful broaching this) but you are hard to read out of the room." she added "I think you think you say a, lot, but you don't. It's normally only a couple of words"

I actually did think I say more. But I was intrigued by her comnent. Obtuse comes to mind.
We talked about part of this is that I don't know what to ask for or how to ask for it.

But it's interesting hearing Ts experience of me.

[susannahsays]

I think it's good you went to session. Sounds like you found it helpful. As for the saying a lot thing, it's possible that you are both right. You know what you said. But your therapist is only capable of intuiting what she can, and her abilities may not extend as far as you expect. That doesn't make either of you wrong, it just means that you might need to make some adjustments so that communication via email is effective. Sounds like you might have a good lead re not knowing what to ask for or how to ask for it. I know I have no idea about those things. That's probably why I have a history of angry texting the therapist. It sounds like your therapist really wants to be able to provide you with what you need, so I guess you guys just need to work on how to identify what you need in the moment, and how to ask for it. Sounds so simple, but so many of us can't seem to solve this puzzle. I hope you and your therapist can figure it out to your satisfaction.

Originally Posted by susannahsays

I think it's good you went to session. Sounds like you found it helpful. As for the saying a lot thing, it's possible that you are both right. You know what you said. But your therapist is only capable of intuiting what she can, and her abilities may not extend as far as you expect. That doesn't make either of you wrong, it just means that you might need to make some adjustments so that communication via email is effective. Sounds like you might have a good lead re not knowing what to ask for or how to ask for it. I know I have no idea about those things. That's probably why I have a history of angry texting the therapist. It sounds like your therapist really wants to be able to provide you with what you need, so I guess you guys just need to work on how to identify what you need in the moment, and how to ask for it. Sounds so simple, but so many of us can't seem to solve this puzzle. I hope you and your therapist can figure it out to your satisfaction.

I looked back on my email. I really didn't say much at all.

[Amyjay]

Originally Posted by Jessica11

you are hard to read out of the room." she added "I think you think you say a, lot, but you don't. It's normally only a couple of words"

Your T said it well. I find your posts here are like that too. Many times I find it hard to accurately read your meaning (thus making it hard to respond satisfactorily).

What do you make of your Ts feedback?

Originally Posted by Amyjay

Your T said it well. I find your posts here are like that too. Many times I find it hard to accurately read your meaning (thus making it hard to respond satisfactorily).

What do you make of your Ts feedback?

I'm pleasesd she told me.

I think language is the difference in here. We all speak English. But as most are Americans I find it just as difficult getting meaning on here. Plus there's no tone.

But with T it was lack of info. Yo few words.
I prefer to use less. To many and it becomes lost too.

I seldom talk in public. I detest hearing conversations in the street. Often I think people talk to much, saying nothing.

I guess it's about finding a balance.

[TeaVicar?]

That's good. she sounds very thoughtful and caring.

Do you think it's something about wanting our therapists to just know what we mean or what we want, like a baby wants her mother to just know and respond accurately to all those needs from very little communication? For those who never had that experience, every mistake or misunderstanding can be a heavy blow to bear.

Originally Posted by TeaVicar?

That's good. she sounds very thoughtful and caring.

Do you think it's something about wanting our therapists to just know what we mean or what we want, like a baby wants her mother to just know and respond accurately to all those needs from very little communication? For those who never had that experience, every mistake or misunderstanding can be a heavy blow to bear.

Of course.