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#21
No... I wish he did
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#22
Rarely, but I'm guessing it's because we're the only two people. I rarely use her name too. Now when she calls me, it's always "Hi T." "Hi Scarlet". And in emails we always address it by our names.
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#23
Yes, all of my Ts have. One time it’s always used is if I dissociate in session, that’s one way to help me get back. That hasn’t happened in awhile, though. Last T and current T both use it when they really need to emphasize something to me or catch my attention.
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#24
Yes, at least a couple of times each session.
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#25
R seems to use my name when intending to draw my attention back to something I've just said, or when she wants to reassure me about something.
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#26
He sometimes says my name when he's really trying to emphasise a point, especially if he thinks I won't believe him or really wants to appeal to me to believe him. Like "Echos, I do care about you." Or "It's okay Echos, you're safe here".
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#27
Rarely, but he does to probably make help make a point or to make sure I understand. Like he's said "It's not your fault, SheHulk." Or "SheHulk, you don't deserve this." Stuff like that and he's psychoanalytical.
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#28
My T says my name all the time. We work with different internal parts of me ‘modes’ and also do chair work too. So there’s a a lot of third person talk, T will be talking to me about a different ‘loco’
Otherwise T will occasionally say my name in regular talk, eg. “I’m sorry to hear that loco” or “how are you my dear loco”. Now I think of it I find it quite comforting. |
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#29
Rarely, and not under any particular circumstances or to emphasize anything. I very rarely use his name either (and I call him by his first name), because that is my super secret technique for keeping him under my mind control.
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#30
She says, "Hey, Miss (Travelinglady). How are you?" when she first comes out to usher me in to her office. Otherwise, I don't remember that she says my name during the sessions.
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#31
My trauma t never says my name.
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#32
I find it more odd that I've never, ever used Ts name.
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#33
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This could be the case. I'm someone who never really uses people's names when I'm talking to them--in emails, sure, like "Hi name," but not when talking (well, except my D, but that's different). But I have a few friends who do tend to use my name, even if it's just the two of us talking. |
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#34
Yes, he states my name in email and in session. he does so more now as he has been more supportive, and like other said, to reinforce a point. On the supportive side, when there is an upcoming long absence for example he will state my name when emphasizing a strong point. That helps with object constancy.
I think it's also a therapy technique, though my T is object relations oriented. If your parents neglected you, never 'seen' you, didn't let you express yourself, you likely don't have a strong identity. And of course the degree is more significant with forms of DID. Reinforcing your name helps connect who you are or your true self or whatever you want to call it as your learn about yourself. So overall it reinforces your sense of self you are developing or strengthening, helping you have a stronger identity. |
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#35
I think using names when there are only two people in the conversation is not necessarily necessary . . .
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#37
I only use my T’s name in emails, but we recently had a conversation about his name. He has one of those names that could have multiple nicknames and I recently ran into someone who referred to my T by his nickname, which I had no idea he used. This felt disorienting in a way and I asked my T if I’d been using the wrong name for him for over a year. So, during that conversation I said his name (both his full name and nickname) multiple times and it felt strange. He also asked if I’d prefer to go by my full name or nickname, but I don’t remember if he actually said my name. Anyway, it got me thinking that I’d like to hear him say my name, but I don’t want to ask him. I suppose there’s something personal or intimate about that. It just seems nice. Or maybe it’s just weird.
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#38
Yes, occasionally. I enjoy when she does. It makes me feel important and noticed.
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#39
My former T used my name frequently for a variety of reasons. To point something out, to empathize with me, to help me stop dissociating, to tell me to have a good night, etc. I rather liked it. My T that I have now rarely uses my name, if at all during a session. Kit
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#40
My trauma T uses my name in emails and when he greets me before we speak on the phone, or in session.
My ex-T, which was a very poor relationship, used to say my name all cutesy. Several times I thought it was fine though I grimaced inside. He even left me voicemails where he kind of did a sing-song repetition. I have a very distinct ethnic name and he is a white guy and this upset me a lot. So when I brought it up with him he was a **** about it. It's funny to see how much I tolerated. I probably have five voicemails from him in the weird sing song style. |
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