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Old 02-03-2019, 07:45 PM #1
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Default Does your T say your name?

Maybe itís a psychodynamic/psychoanalytic thing, but Iíve been seeing my T for 17 months and he never says my name. Or maybe itís because there are only 2 of us in the room and thereís no real need to say each otherís names, but itís a little odd that he never says it, isnít it? Do you think itís psychoanalytic thing to avoid saying it? Does your T says your name? I think it might be nice to occasionally hear it.
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My T was pychodynamically oriented, and he said my name all the time.

Even after he died, I heard him say my name once.
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Not often but on occasion, usually if he was joking with me and referring to me in that sense.

Sometimes in texts, always in emails... but rarely in person, we had nicknames for each other and if we called each other anything, it was usually that
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If my T uses my name in text, I know that generally, he is not happy with me (The last two times he used my name in text he said "XX we've talked about this already"). He always uses it in email; he starts with "Hi XX". Rarely in person. He doesn't even call my name when he does attendance in class. I'll always say when he's done "XX is here too" and he says "I don't call it because I know you".
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Default Re: Does your T say your name?

Rarely, because we are the only two in the room, but sometimes in the course of conversation, like "I wonder, (Name), whether blah blah blah..." I tend to do the same, use her name rarely/occasionally in that same way as we're talking.

I'd say that it occurs about as often as it does in regular ongoing conversations with people outside therapy.
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Yes he does say my name.. usually when trying to drive a point home or we are having more of a serious conversation.
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yeah, usually when i am too silent or seem upset, she will ask me what is going on.
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The woman used it all the time. I think it was to remind her who I was because I was pretty clear on who was who. With only two people in the room, I could usually figure out to whom she was speaking.
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Most of the therapists I saw rarely said my name. It's manipulative and possibly a means for establishing hierarchy. Just another way therapist behavior tends toward sociopathy in my opinion.
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Mine often says my name. Sometimes, reacting to something I say, like, "Goodness, LT." Other times talking about me using my filter on what others same to me, the "LT filter." And he's referred to "Little LT" before. (I mean, of course, all of this is with my first name, not LT!)

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