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Always in This Twilight
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For me, I put some of that in if he says, for example, "How was your weekend?" I might mention some things I did, maybe something that went on with my H or D, etc. That's not every session--if I'm really stressed/upset about something or we have unfinished business from the last session, then we'd most likely start there. But I think discussing things that may seem like small talk builds rapport and also gives him more of a sense of who I am. The issue would be if much of the session ended up being like that, as has happened with ex-MC before. Then again, an occasional session like that can be OK, too--like I probably want a lighter session like that before my T goes out of town (though I likely won't succeed...) |
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#23
I send my T pics of me doing things, on vacation, etc, so he doesn't really have a choice as to whether he gets them or not lol. And I know he looks at them, because four months later he'll make an off-hand comment about them.
He told me last summer to send him a friend request on facebook, so I did, but he hasn't actually accepted it yet. However, he goes on like twice a year - I think he's literally posted twice in the past year. I would love him to see my facebook...but he also sees a lot of me outside of therapy because of school and church and stuff. |
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I think often about this, especially wishing she was able to see me in a setting where I was more "competent" at making eye contact, carrying on a conversation without extended silences, being articulate, making decisive decisions, feeling confident, and displaying other skills I regularly do as a functional, successful adult; skills one would probably never know I possess if only sitting in a therapy session with me.
I think I know deep in my heart she has to know this side exists. Sometimes I wish, though, she would acknowledge it. |
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Sometimes the stuff comes up naturally, but I just want him to know more I guess. Though it feels so awkward to basically force it into the session haha |
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I have always wished that he would look at my Instagram or Facebook lol. Kind of like you said, it would show me in a more competent light. Like yes, I’m a mess in therapy and talk about all the bad stuff that happens, but look here’s my Instagram, which is how I appear to the rest of the world. I once showed my T a picture of me and my sister as kids. I had it in my purse and he asked if he could see it. I was surprised he wanted to but glad. I have also thought about him seeing my wedding pictures haha. I’m not totally sure, but I don’t think he’d have any interest in seeing the pictures of other people in my life. I think he wanted to see that one because it showed younger me. But I could be completely wrong here. |
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I feel you on this! I wish he could see me in school or at work. Like I know I lose all my words and can’t look at him half the time in my own therapy, but when the roles are reversed I swear I’m not a complete disaster haha. |
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I sometimes wish my therapist to come see my house and my style. also for me to have him for a meal or high tea. I would prepare it with my nicest china and tablecloth.
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