[susannahsays]

@seeker33

Personally, I find the responses on the MyPTSD forum to sometimes be very unsupportive and confrontational. It is not like here at all. People, including mods, don't hesitate to rebuke posters for feeling/thinking the "wrong" way, and it doesn't matter if you specifically ask for a specific kind of support or not. This has happened to me, and I have seen it happen to others. I mostly stay off it, but I've pretty much decided that I won't create posts there myself anymore, but will offer support to others since there is sometimes a lack of empathy in responses. Sometimes here at PC, I think we maybe are a little extreme in our efforts to not come across as judgemental, but many users on the MyPTSD forum take it to the other extreme.

One good thing about MyPTSD is that you can look at the posts and even comment without creating an account. That's what I did at first, and then when I eventually signed up, I used the same username I had used for my non-account comments, and they somehow carried over into my new account.

I second koru_kiwis recommendation of pandy's. C uses that site and has found it very helpful. You can't see most of it without an account, and some sections are restricted until you have made a certain number of posts, or based on gender identity.

C and I get on the therapy/talktherapy and bpd subreddits sometimes. I don't have bpd, but the posts are often relatable anyway. And the relationship subreddit - everything is all sorts of ****ed up over there! People tend to offer horrible advice in the therapy ones, imo. They all think therapy is magic and that therapists **** glitter or something. I post under my usual name or C's name to try to give more balanced advice when I can. I'm not bothered that there are therapists who sometimes post there. I am occasionally disturbed by the way a handful of eccentric therapists have claimed to practice and how dumb/arrogant/cruel they are, but most of them seem pretty generic. Of course, the ones on Reddit are usually active on the psychotherapy sub (which is exclusively for clinicians, though anyone can view it), so there is no doubt an element of posturing involved in responses. Who knows how these therapists actually practice in person. The ones who seem fine could be horrible in real life. You never know.

[BudFox]

Originally Posted by stopdog

Forums | The PsychCafe Is one - but I found them to be fairly closed minded and oddly cliquey

I was a member earlier in my therapy "career". I got some of the most irrational and condescending lectures there from professional therapy clients about how I was doing therapy all wrong.

Later I came back and started posting more provocative and annoying things, and was thrown out by the controlling and vindictive moderator.

Good times, good times...

[DP_2017]

Originally Posted by susannahsays

@seeker33

Personally, I find the responses on the MyPTSD forum to sometimes be very unsupportive and confrontational. It is not like here at all. People, including mods, don't hesitate to rebuke posters for feeling/thinking the "wrong" way, and it doesn't matter if you specifically ask for a specific kind of support or not. This has happened to me, and I have seen it happen to others. I mostly stay off it, but I've pretty much decided that I won't create posts there myself anymore, but will offer support to others since there is sometimes a lack of empathy in responses. Sometimes here at PC, I think we maybe are a little extreme in our efforts to not come across as judgemental, but many users on the MyPTSD forum take it to the other extreme.

One good thing about MyPTSD is that you can look at the posts and even comment without creating an account. That's what I did at first, and then when I eventually signed up, I used the same username I had used for my non-account comments, and they somehow carried over into my new account.

I second koru_kiwis recommendation of pandy's. C uses that site and has found it very helpful. You can't see most of it without an account, and some sections are restricted until you have made a certain number of posts, or based on gender identity.

C and I get on the therapy/talktherapy and bpd subreddits sometimes. I don't have bpd, but the posts are often relatable anyway. And the relationship subreddit - everything is all sorts of ****ed up over there! People tend to offer horrible advice in the therapy ones, imo. They all think therapy is magic and that therapists **** glitter or something. I post under my usual name or C's name to try to give more balanced advice when I can. I'm not bothered that there are therapists who sometimes post there. I am occasionally disturbed by the way a handful of eccentric therapists have claimed to practice and how dumb/arrogant/cruel they are, but most of them seem pretty generic. Of course, the ones on Reddit are usually active on the psychotherapy sub (which is exclusively for clinicians, though anyone can view it), so there is no doubt an element of posturing involved in responses. Who knows how these therapists actually practice in person. The ones who seem fine could be horrible in real life. You never know.

yes i got banned from there last year... because i didn't have a official CPTSD diagnosis. so i didnt "understand" them

[seeker33]

Oh I'm not so familiar with myptsd forum. I've only been there a few times so I didn't get a proper longer term experience. Thanks for sharing, susannah and DP.

I signed up for the myPTSD forum but shortly found it was not safe for me for the reasons stated. Someone part of moderation or the owner?, I forget, was often aggressive toward people saying that are not allowed to say they have PTSD because they "don't really have it".

Thought I'd must mention there are other forums on this site like trauma, dissociation, depression. I've tried to use them but they aren't very active at all and it makes me uncomfortable to post there. There is also that new Haven support place. I've never tried it but could be something to look into.

[Lemoncake]

I was also on lifesigns (SH) too when I was younger.

Forum terms | LifeSIGNS

[koru_kiwi]

Originally Posted by susannahsays

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Personally, I find the responses on the MyPTSD forum to sometimes be very unsupportive and confrontational. It is not like here at all. People, including mods, don't hesitate to rebuke posters for feeling/thinking the "wrong" way, and it doesn't matter if you specifically ask for a specific kind of support or not. This has happened to me, and I have seen it happen to others. I mostly stay off it, but I've pretty much decided that I won't create posts there myself anymore, but will offer support to others since there is sometimes a lack of empathy in responses. Sometimes here at PC, I think we maybe are a little extreme in our efforts to not come across as judgemental, but many users on the MyPTSD forum take it to the other extreme.

this was my experince with this site as well, even back in the days before it was re-branded to MyPTSD. i decided that forum was more toxic than supportive after repeatedly witnessing the site administrator and some of the moderators gaining up on and bullying members who did not conform to their beliefs. definitly not an online environment that i was interested in participating with or seeking support from.

Originally Posted by BudFox

I was a member earlier in my therapy "career". I got some of the most irrational and condescending lectures there from professional therapy clients about how I was doing therapy all wrong.

Later I came back and started posting more provocative and annoying things, and was thrown out by the controlling and vindictive moderator.

Good times, good times...

i thought it was just me. i couldnt stand the site.

Have you lot been cheating on doc John.
I'm telling.

[susannahsays]

Originally Posted by DP_2017

yes i got banned from there last year... because i didn't have a official CPTSD diagnosis. so i didnt "understand" them

How is it even possible to have an official CPTSD diagnosis? CPTSD isn't even "official." It hasn't been codified and there isn't a consensus on the diagnostic criteria. I'm not saying it doesn't exist, just that it's a bit outrageous to ban someone for not having an official diagnosis of an unofficial disorder. That's crazy... but yeah, I've noticed lots of people get banned there. I've always wondered what they did.

[MoxieDoxie]

Originally Posted by Cheryl27

Can you pm me the website to the eating disorder forum please. I used to belong to fishy.org many years ago i liked the support. It's been hard to find a good place for support. I suffer from bulimia, thanks you can pm me

I was bulimic for 2 decades. Finally in full recovery but it was almost impossible to get support for that eating disorder as they felt you could just stop as you had a chose....but those pooor anorexics. Oh not it was not a chose to not put food in your mouth. The bad connotation with bulimia made it so hard to find compassionate support.

[Taylor27]

Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie

I was bulimic for 2 decades. Finally in full recovery but it was almost impossible to get support for that eating disorder as they felt you could just stop as you had a chose....but those pooor anorexics. Oh not it was not a chose to not put food in your mouth. The bad connotation with bulimia made it so hard to find compassionate support.

Im finding that there is no help for me, unless i go into the city which i do not drive or my husband. Im trying to work up the courage to tell my gp. I used to go the university hospital in the city for eating disorder. I feel so alone. I go a couple months free of this and then i relapse, it's starting to take a toll on my body.

[koru_kiwi]

Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

i thought it was just me. i couldnt stand the site.

i wasn't too impressed either...i lurked there just long enough (never even officially signed up) to witness how insanely 'cliqueie' it was and decided it was best for me to avoid that place

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

i thought it was just me. i couldnt stand the site.

And then they revamped it making it impossible to follow any thread. So both content and format of psychcafe were a disaster in my opinion. But some of the people there seemed to like it and could figure it out.

[missbella]

There’s a relatively new forum for those clients and former clients who are sorting out harmful therapy. Please PM me for details.