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As usual for Valentine's Day this year, I have nothing planned. No date, no nothing. Last year the case was similar but what made it different was the fact that I had my therapy session that day with my previous therapist. Our last session was 4 months ago but I still think about her. I felt excited prior to that session a year ago. The reason why I felt excited is that I have strong loving feelings for my previous therapist. Not only is she really warm and caring but she is exceedingly beautiful. I felt nervous as well. In the previous sessions, I did a good job in containing those romantic feelings to myself by always staying concentrated when talking about other issues that I deal with. The weeks prior I was feeling quite nervous. Whenever I would go grocery shopping and I saw those heart-shaped chocolate boxes I thought to myself "I just want to give her that as a gift for that special session/day." I never went forward with that.
The day of the session came and that is all I thought about. It was Valentine"s Day. A day to show love. I wanted to express it but at the time I just wanted to avoid talking about it. It would have been bad timing if I started talking about transference on Valentine's Day. In the drive on my way there, I was just hoping she would not ask about Valentine's Day in general. She did not ask about it. During that session, I was talking about another issue but at the same time, I was thinking about those loving feelings. I just wanted to tell her "I love you!" Obviously, I did not do that. When I walked away from that session, it felt so special because I spent an hour of that Valentine's Day with the person that I love the most. Eventually, I cracked and told her about some of those loving feelings 2 weeks later. When I got home, I jokingly thought of her as my date for Valentine's Day. When I reflect on last year, it is amusing to think about how I was feeling during the days leading up to and during that Valentine's Day session. |
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I've always hated V-day. It's basically a day to make single people feel like ****. I wish they would stop promoting it so heavily.
I've never had a date on valentines day. I had my regular session the day before last year but we talked about it as it was his first since divorce. We both had no plans and I did text him that day. This year, I was planning to see him that day for session but then everything went to hell in December. It is very interesting what difference a year can make. Last year at this time, I was happy. Now I'm crazy miserable. I hope you can find a way to enjoy it anyway. I used to spend it just watching my fav romcoms with my dogs. __________________ Grief is the price you pay for love. |
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I am single and I don't feel like ****. I couldn't care less about Valentine's Day. If I were in a relationship, I think it would be an annoying hassle. Seems like it would be better to make plans to celebrate a relationship when it suits the people involved instead of doing it as part of some generic holiday - when it might be inconvenient and not enjoyable. But I am personally not at all romantic and prefer pragmatism over sentimentality, so the idea of Valentine's Day itself is unappealing to me regardless.
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