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Default Mar 20, 2019 at 08:47 PM
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Couch opinion wanted... Murky t boundary situation.

My anxiety has been bad, but I have always had anxiety about traveling. I have to travel with my daughter this weekend for a dance competition about 3hrs away. Tons of anxiety all around about traveling, but just also have tons of anxiety in general constantly worry about terrible things happening. Just not good all around. T and I were talking about it today and how I was worried about having panic Attack all weekend while we are at this event.

T then mentioned well he would be there for most of the weekend (I knew he would be). but while we are at these functions you are not my t you just the dad of another kid who dances with my kid. And he said yes, but if you felt like you needed to talk because my anxiety was out of control I could. And laid it all on me.. if I felt comfortable I could reach out.

Likely I won’t need that, but I also feel like I want a plan for if my anxiety is that bad this weekend. I want to know how I feel about it now.. and not in the midst of anxiety. On one hand I love how open he was to me asking for help from him. BUT- I think also, we have done so great with our dual relationship and clearly setting up boundaries, that I don’t want to ruin that. Though, I don’t think he would have offered if he thought I would some how take advantage from
Now on. Ultimately I know it is my decision, but I also want to know if anybody else thinks this maybe be getting close to really blurring the boundaries?
I don’t think so, mainly because you have a history of setting clear boundaries with each other. My experience of blurring boundaries personally and what I read on here is it’s most likely to happen when boundaries aren’t discussed or carefully considered at all, and that boundaries are clearest and least likely to blur when they’re discussed and thought about.
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Default Mar 20, 2019 at 09:01 PM
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I wouldn’t talk to my T about my anxiety at something like that. If I was having a hard time I might go stand near him or ask for a hug but I wouldn’t talk to him much. I had a T that opened that door with me once and then we had a misunderstanding and she blew up on me. We were never able to fix the T/client relationship... although, in all fairness she made a better friend anyway.

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Default Mar 20, 2019 at 09:17 PM
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Crud... uh, fellow couchies? Anyone sitting on a set of keys? Could you check between the cushions next to you? Came home from the grocery store and plopped down to check in and can’t find my keys. Checked all the usual places... coat pocket, pants, fridge, pantry, bags, car, bathroom, freezer... not necessarily in that order. ugh... can’t believe I lost them again...

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Default Mar 20, 2019 at 09:30 PM
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There was just a downpour of hail where I'm at. Was only sprinkling before. The rain today prevented us from doing the real estate caravan. We need our house to sell!

And I just realized that if my sister doesn't get her act together, I may never see my nieces again We already don't qualify for foster. We won't qualify for adoption because my H doesn't have a job. And he's trying real hard to find one. This situation is just so depressing for me. Wish they had "auntie" rights. Do my parents lose their grandparents rights if the girls get adopted?

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Default Mar 20, 2019 at 09:35 PM
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Found them! they were under the oranges. I also found three cats (that weren’t lost), an extra set of house keys, two flashlights and an unopened candy bar.

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Default Mar 20, 2019 at 09:42 PM
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There was just a downpour of hail where I'm at. Was only sprinkling before. The rain today prevented us from doing the real estate caravan. We need our house to sell!

And I just realized that if my sister doesn't get her act together, I may never see my nieces again We already don't qualify for foster. We won't qualify for adoption because my H doesn't have a job. And he's trying real hard to find one. This situation is just so depressing for me. Wish they had "auntie" rights. Do my parents lose their grandparents rights if the girls get adopted?

I am so sorry, it just seems to be non stop for you right now. Typically in the US family or people the kids have a relationship with are given the first chance to foster/adopt/kinship care. If there are not any of those available they typically go into regular foster care and if parental rights are terminated they are placed for adoption. The good news is that all of this takes some time so maybe by the time they would be available for an adoptive home you may be in your new place. Most of the time adoptions out of the foster care system are “closed” meaning that no one in the biological family has contact with the kids. There are exceptions to every rule though. I adopted my son from the foster care system and then found his birth family and invited them to continue to be a part of his life.

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Default Mar 20, 2019 at 10:32 PM
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Omers, if it helps...

I searched EVERYWHERE for my work keys yesterday. I couldn't find them anywhere....coat pockets, jeans pockets, counters, stuff drawer, work bag, backup work bag, NOWHERE.

This morning, I looked on the key hook. You know, where the keys go?
Someone helpful had hung them up for me.

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Default Mar 21, 2019 at 02:15 AM
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Found them! they were under the oranges. I also found three cats (that weren’t lost), an extra set of house keys, two flashlights and an unopened candy bar.
Just woke up, read 'they were under the organs'. Felt like 'maybe this place is getting too weird for me'. Glad you don't have organs standing around (although I can't tell for sure of course :P)!
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Default Mar 21, 2019 at 04:03 AM
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Session in about an hour. Still no closer to working out what I actually need to say.

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Just woke up, read 'they were under the organs'. Felt like 'maybe this place is getting too weird for me'. Glad you don't have organs standing around (although I can't tell for sure of course :P)!
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They could have fallen under the pipe organ too, less wired but still weird. Either way I will go put another pot of tea/coffee on for us couchies as it sounds like we may need it!

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Omers, if it helps...

I searched EVERYWHERE for my work keys yesterday. I couldn't find them anywhere....coat pockets, jeans pockets, counters, stuff drawer, work bag, backup work bag, NOWHERE.

This morning, I looked on the key hook. You know, where the keys go?
Someone helpful had hung them up for me.

Glad you found your keys.

I've done something very similar...
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Default Mar 21, 2019 at 06:48 AM
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My D is sick and has a low-grade fever (sore throat), and I think we should keep her home from school. and told her that at 2 am when she was awake and miserable. H thinks we should still send her and he'll just pick her up if they send her home. I really wish he would trust my judgment. She very rarely has a fever. It's fairly low-grade, but...also if they send her home today with a fever she won't be allowed to go in tomorrow, I think. I feel like we should keep her home today to rest. I was the one who was up with her a bunch of times at night when she was calling out...


Hm...you know, this is suddenly reminding me of my mom, who generally made me go to school and do other stuff if I was sick and didn't tend to take "not feeling well" as an excuse. Sigh.
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OK, he agreed to keep her home, as she's laying on the couch under a blanket looking rather pathetic and had a bit of a temperature at most recent reading. I don't see the point in sending her if they're just going to send her home in an hour. I mean, it's a bit inconvenient for H, who is working from home and has a (phone) meeting when I have T, but he said he'd make it work.
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Default Mar 21, 2019 at 09:24 AM
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Has anybody else ever played a game with their T/counsellor/MH provider in session?

Today, I ended up spending a lot of the session talking about a Jenga metaphor with R, and in the end she asked whether I would like to play. I'm really not quite sure how to feel about it. I said 'Stranger things have happened', referring to previous counsellor S helping me to lay a 3 page spreadsheet out on the floor of his office, and then telling me that he would soon be retiring.

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Not having my normal Thursday session this week. I really needed it. Life's stressors are really getting to me right now. I wonder what he's doing that's so important.
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Found them! they were under the oranges. I also found three cats (that weren’t lost), an extra set of house keys, two flashlights and an unopened candy bar.
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Hey couchies. Busy work morning so far I've been in live chat and then in a meeting so hadn't had a chance to pick up my phone til now, presently waiting for a process to finish.

Wasn't able to photograph the moon last night, too cloudy. But, I did get a blurry pic of Jupiter before work this morning. Amazing to me as far away as it is, that its size is so immense we can still see it from here!
 
 
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Well my doctor appointment went okay yesterday. We are just going to wait four months, get retested, and see if any of the numbers have changed. In the meantime, diet and exercise. Most of the stuff she listed off on the don't eat list, I don't eat anyway, so I think it's going to have to be more exercise than anything. If the numbers don't go down I will probably have to go on medication. Not the end of the world, just I'd rather not if I can do this another way. Kitty's appointment update next. HUGS Kit

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So my kitty Esther had her appointment yesterday. We were there two and a half hours. She was diagnosed with diabetes. Her sugar levels were in the 600's!!!! (They are supposed to be in the 100's) but thank you Lord that her kidney's weren't damaged. She is going on insulin (started shots last night) and a special diet of all wet food (which she isn't happy about because she likes her dry food). The insulin and the syringes were expensive. About $100. The special food is going to be expensive too, about $42 a case. Then she also has a bladder infection, so she's on antibiotics $50. That's fun, because I have to pry open her mouth and chuck the pill down her throat. But so far (two times now) she's taken it. She's a pretty chill cat and doesn't get too worked up normally. We need to get some pee strips so we can check her blood sugar, but they had to order them, and those are going to be $100. All I can say is thank goodness for tax refunds. The doctor said she might not have to be insulin dependent her whole life (she's 13). If we can get her numbers down to about 300 all the time then we would only have to give her insulin if it spikes above that. Two shots so far and I can already tell she is drinking less water (drinking lots of water is a sign of diabetes in cats and in humans) so I am hoping she will start feeling better. I don't care if she doesn't put on more weight because she's on the low end of healthy right now, (she used to be overweight), I just want her sugar levels controlled. It was an expensive visit, and we still need to get a case of food (they wanted us to try it before we bought a case in case she wouldn't eat it) and buy the pee sticks when they get them. But I'm glad her kidney's weren't damaged and they weren't in failure mode. Her white blood cell count is low but that is probably due to the infection. So we are working on getting her healthy and happy again. My poor baby. I feel so bad for her. Luckily the syringes have a really small needle and so most cats aren't bothered by it. She let out a small mew this morning but didn't fight me about it. I think it's going to be harder for her to just eat wet food all the time than it is to take the shots. When she was younger and could go hunting for birds and stuff she was super healthy. But my baby is getting older. Hopefully she won't be insulin dependent the rest of her life. HUGS Kit

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Hugs, Kit, sorry your kitty has diabetes, but glad her kidneys are OK and that it seems manageable.
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