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Mar 15, 2019 at 11:07 PM
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I am being a little ***** in therapy these days and I hate myself for it. I can’t seem to stop.
It’s so frustrating because I have so much that I need to process with my T but I am locked in a power struggle with him. |
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Mar 16, 2019 at 12:31 AM
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You're conscious and aware of it happening which is positive , so whatever it is is quite near the surface to be looked at and hopefully resolved and healed. Which part is it ? A teenage part in a power struggle with parent/parents over something ? We do play it all out again , frustratingly for us sometimes.
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Mar 16, 2019 at 07:27 AM
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It is really impossible to stop? For me, it has helped to begin a session with the thing I'm trying to stop. "T, I notice I've been in __ mode lately, and the power struggles with you are frustrating me. Can we discuss how I can interrupt this cycle?"
I have also found that I can use my awareness that it is happening to look backwards, such as what emotion am I feeling just before I engage in a power struggle? My guess, because fight-or-flight is automated and mostly disconnected from our conscious brain, is that is is fear. When I feel afraid, I notice first that my chest tightens and it feels like blood is rushing into the temples of my forehead. If I take three deep breaths (which supposedly hooks in the vagus nerve), it's like that wall goes down and I'm back to a un-triggered place and can respond with intent and focus. So for me, understanding the emotion that underlies my response and derailing it helps me get into a place where I can choose how to react. |
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Mar 16, 2019 at 04:32 PM
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Mar 16, 2019 at 07:26 PM
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Mar 16, 2019 at 08:55 PM
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Is he aware of this power struggle?
He should help you out of it....so I wonder if he doesn't see w what's going on. |
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Mar 16, 2019 at 10:09 PM
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Mar 16, 2019 at 10:26 PM
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Ok, I see. My T might do the same, but though rare, after a while he might do an intervention type session to propel me forward....
If you care to share what it is, maybe we could help? |
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