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Loco4
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#1
My last session with T is only two days away.
I am devastated, looking for advice or just kind words. |
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#2
I'm so sorry you're feeling like this , it's hard sometimes when these things happen.
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#3
Sorry to hear, that must be tough.
I would suggest you 'plan' the session as in, ask and/or say what you would like to address so that there is no regret of having left anything unsaid. Will you be transitioning to a new T? If so, you could get support from that new T as well. |
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#4
Yes this! Regret has been a hard part in struggling with my loss. I wish so badly I'd done things differently in the last session, although he gave me what I wanted with it.
I am sorry for the loss, it's hard and I am assuming you are gonna be like me and cut off contact for a few years, which is even worse. If you need to see someone else, even short term, to deal with the grief, that is ok I'm sorry this is happening but I hope you can make it the best session for you __________________ Grief is the price you pay for love. |
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Sorry you are losing your therapist. Any plans to see a new one?
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Sorry you having to go through this, having been there I know just how impossible itvall seems having to say goodbye to someone you truly care about.
I would sigguest writing maybe a list or a letter of all you want to say, because having regrets about the unsaid is really torturous, and in the moment fir me at least I found saying the right words too hard. If you are going to be seeing a new T then I recommend using them for continued support. After that it's just take life day by day, im a couple of months on now, I still miss her and I'm still sad etc, but day to day it does get a little easier, and ok the days it isn't, then just allow yourself to feel all that you feel, mine is sadness, hurt but also anger. |
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HUGS Loco4. That's hard. I agree that writing a letter of what you want to say can be really helpful. Also, if you cry, just go with it. Don't try to hold it in. HUGS Kit
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Hug's loco4 my last session with my current t will be in a month. If you just end up crying don't hold it in. Maybe get a card or something you might think your t will like might help. No matter what it will be hard. Know we are here for you on pc. Hugs
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Loco4
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#9
Thanks everyone for your responses and kind words.
I do have a name of another T, I have called and emailed their office but haven’t heard back hoping I will soon I am writing a letter tonight to read to T tomorrow as I know I’ll be too upset to put words together. I don’t want to not ask or say something and have regrets |
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That's good that you're writing a letter and have a name of another therapist.
Hope you can get the closure you need in your last appointment. |
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