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My T moved his chair. I couldnít look at him.
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You couldnít look at him because of where he placed his chair?
Why did he move his chair?

I donít mind Tís rearranging their office, in general, but I donít particularly like change in our seating arrangements.
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My t (I guess I should start calling her ex-t) had a new table in front of the couch last time I was there. I don't like it. It's ok I guess as far as tables go but it just doesn't fit her office. It's glass and all cold and sterile feeling. Not warm and homey like the other stuff in there.
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Mine recently bought an ottoman and gave the go when I asked if I could put my feet on it. It feels so much more comfortable for me now because I'm sitting in the same type of manner I sit in my own living room.

She sits a little too far away for me to see her face clearly without my glasses on. I wish she'd move her chair about 2 ft closer, then I could take the glasses off.

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T sets the chairs out each session so they are always a little different. Normally changes in the office really bother me but knowing that both of our chairs move and everything else stays the same is really working for me. I also let T know that I was more comfortable with the chairs closer so from then on he has had them close. Originally he had them farther apart because he thought I would feel less threatened that way. Then when we do EMDR he moves his chair right up to mine with the arms of the chairs touching... thatís when I feel the safest and T has noticed.
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Hi,
You couldnít look at him because of where he placed his chair?
Why did he move his chair?

I donít mind Tís rearranging their office, in general, but I donít particularly like change in our seating arrangements.
Sorry, let me clarify, he moved his chair closer to the couch i sit on. Too close but for some reason i just couldnít say anything to him about it, just sat there feeling uncomfortable.
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Sorry, let me clarify, he moved his chair closer to the couch i sit on. Too close but for some reason i just couldnít say anything to him about it, just sat there feeling uncomfortable.
I hope youíre able to let him know youíre uncomfortable with this change. Also hope he respects your boundary and moves his chair back.

Did he say why he moved his chair closer or did he do this without comment?
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I can see how that would be difficult. I always found the how close/how far apart dynamic difficult with my former T. With my current T, her office is tiny but it feels cozy, so it feels close enough while being far apart away.
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I am amazed that small changes can throw things off. EMDR T always sits on an exercise ball. One day when I walked in she asked of it was okay if she sat in a regular chair because the ball was bothering her that day. Of course I didnt care; I did notice things seem a bit off because she was higher up.
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I hope youíre able to let him know youíre uncomfortable with this change. Also hope he respects your boundary and moves his chair back.

Did he say why he moved his chair closer or did he do this without comment?
i hope i get up the nerve to talk to him about it if it's in the same place next week. I dont know why he moved it, it didnt bother him but it made my anxiety skyrocket.
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