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Always in This Twilight
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Jersey 4, SlumberKitty
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Always in This Twilight
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#322
How does one reconcile the therapeutic relationship and its intimacy along with its limitations (and, I guess, benefits)? Shouldn't I have figured this out in my past 8+ years of therapy?
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Big Poppa
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#323
The way I see it, diet and exercise makes me HEALTHIER even if I don't lose any actual weight.
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Child of a lesser god
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#324
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I thought you were just putting down dietitians by calling them nutritionists. __________________ The secret to eternal youth is arrested development.—Alice Roosevelt Longworth |
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Child of a lesser god
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#325
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Grand Magnate
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#326
I wish I knew. I've been wanting to talk to my therapist about this topic. I've told him that I have to do some mental tricks to allow myself to open up to him, but I haven't explained what they are. He's gently prodded me to tell him and wants me to write it down, which is what I've been attempting to do for the last week or so, but I've hit a wall and can't do it. I think there is some expectation that I will bring this writing to today's session. For me, I know what reality is, but I also have a fantasy version of the relationship that I keep in my head. I know I'm just a client, but in fantasy world, I'm special to him and he gets something out of the relationship as well. I hesitate to say the word love, but maybe in fantasy world, he loves me and would want to grab a beer with me. It feels like admitting any of this to him would be so humiliating. So I guess to answer your question, I don't reconcile it, I pretend limitations don't exist, but at the same time I know they do and respect them. It's confusing in my head sometimes.
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Magnet
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#327
((Jersey)) You’re making healthy choices. You’re taking care of your body.
Sizes vary so much across manufacturers/stores/brands. And it seems like they have been yo-yoing even within brands. It’s aggravating! It leaves people trying to measure progress by a temperamental fluctuating yardstick. __________________ Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine) |
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Magnate
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#328
Today T said to me "you are among a handful of clients I've worked with through my career who has a special place in my consciousness". Forgot to write that in IST and wanted it recorded for posterity.
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Legendary Wise Elder
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#329
That is lovely Echos Myron Redux.
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Magnet
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#330
My therapy appointment was rescheduled to tomorrow. I realized that my feeling when today was canceled was definitely relief.
I had a panic attack 15 minutes after leaving my last session. I thought today: Well sh**, I definitely need to talk about how I thought I was doing so well and then...clearly not. But I am okay with that. But...clearly not, because then I thought about how feeling like I was doing better was like a Venn diagram overlap between trauma and not-so-adaptive coping skills and I started to cry out of the blue. Ugh. __________________ Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine) |
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#331
I was able to talk to L again today. It was a nice 10 min phone call. I updated her on my situation. We talked a little about T leaving and how I feel. T was actually the one who suggested the phone call to help me reconnect with L. It did help. Still scared, but more comfortable after talking to her.
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Always in This Twilight
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#332
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I'm sorry you struggle with this, too. T said he knows I want to feel important to him. But I said I knew it had to be within confines of professional relationship. It is incredibly confusing because of the mix of incredible intimacy on our parts and limitations on the part of the T. I also want to believe my T loves me on some level. Like, certainly not the same as his wife or son, but something. And sometimes I think maybe I feel that from him? But I couldn't mention that. I'd also like to believe that ex-MC loved (loves?) me. Because it definitely felt like that at times. |
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#334
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#335
Hallucinations suck.
Possible trigger:
__________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA Last edited by SlumberKitty; Mar 27, 2019 at 02:50 PM.. Reason: added trigger |
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Always in This Twilight
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#336
Hugs, Kit. That sounds really scary! I'd let your T or p-doc know.
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#337
Thanks LT. I don't see my T until the 15th of April, but I happen to see my Pdoc tonight so I can bring it up then. He doesn't seem to put much stock in my visual hallucinations though. Only the auditory ones.
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Big Poppa
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#338
Some say that therapy works by forcing the patient to face the contradictions inherent in therapy.
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Big Poppa
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#339
__________________ Mr Ambassador, alias Ancient Plax, alias Captain Therapy, alias Big Poppa, alias Secret Spy, etc. Add that to your tattoo, Baby! |
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Big Poppa
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#340
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