Couch 192: The Rainbow Cupcake Couch

06:20 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

How does one reconcile the therapeutic relationship and its intimacy along with its limitations (and, I guess, benefits)? Shouldn't I have figured this out in my past 8+ years of therapy?

I couldn't. That's a big part of the kinda complex 'why' I had to quit seeing Leticia. I never could adequately explain here. Thankfully the gains I made in therapy are still with me and I'm starting to feel pretty good about life post-her. A couple of things have come up that I've handled without her that I haven't mentioned here and that has really boosted my confidence in myself. Long story though.

NP_Complete · Mar 27, 2019 at 06:02 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Jersey, there’s lots of local movers online—I mean not like Mayflower but guys who will load/unload trucks and storage units for you and do a professional job. I can imagine they’d do the basement. I know U-Haul links to sites that list them.

Might even come out to the same amount depending on time and tip.

Two Men and a Truck has that service.

In-home Moving Services | TWO MEN AND A TRUCK

LonesomeTonight · Mar 27, 2019 at 06:07 PM

Seeing T again tomorrow (please don't judge me).

CantExplain · Mar 27, 2019 at 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Aw, was wondering how many times you'd reply to yourself

Only once on this occasion.

CantExplain · Mar 27, 2019 at 06:11 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

That makes some sense...like the intimacy crashing up against the boundaries?

Yup. So they say.

CantExplain · Mar 27, 2019 at 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

Does anyone else have trouble understanding things their T says? Sometimes i struggle because i understand what each word means but when i try to understand the sentence i just cant do it. or maybe its the idea behind the sentence because i have asked my T to say things a different way or maybe its my auditory processing disorder.

Their brains are a different shape.

NP_Complete · Mar 27, 2019 at 06:13 PM

I shared my writing with him. It was incredibly intense for me. Anxiety, some dissociation, and tears. I have some real struggles with sharing deeply personal feelings with people, but he was lovely about it. He started saying something about having feelings for your therapist were normal whether they were familial or platonic or sexual. I was thinking "Whoa there buddy. Nobody mentioned sexual feelings here.", but it's good to know that he probably wouldn't be freaked out if I did develop some of those someday.

NP_Complete · Mar 27, 2019 at 06:15 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Seeing T again tomorrow (please don't judge me).

No judgement here.

SlumberKitty · Mar 27, 2019 at 06:16 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

No judgement here.

None here either. HUGS Kit

atisketatasket · Mar 27, 2019 at 06:16 PM

I am grading. I increasingly feel students and I do not speak the same language. I say “name a battle of the Roman civil wars” and they give me names of politicians. I say “name one of the three tactical stages of development in the Roman army” and they name officer positions in the army.

CantExplain · Mar 27, 2019 at 06:18 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I am grading. I increasingly feel students and I do not speak the same language. I say “name a battle of the Roman civil wars” and they give me names of politicians. I say “name one of the three tactical stages of development in the Roman army” and they name officer positions in the army.

Actium and ... I don't know.

I know that Scipio Africanus greatly improved the flexibility of the army by allowing maniples to work independently, but I couldn't name the stage before or after this development.

"Quincunx" and "Tortoise" are formations.

atisketatasket · Mar 27, 2019 at 06:20 PM

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Actium and ... I don't know.

You’re already doing better than some of my students.

(A: phalanx, manipular legion, cohortal legion.)

Mar 27, 2019 at 06:20 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

Their brains are a different shape.

i was stunned to find a photo from a T training session that had therapists parts listed a few said they wished clients would cancel or go away and one comment said nothing sexual is happening i want the context of the last one

CantExplain · Mar 27, 2019 at 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

i was stunned to find a photo from a T training session that had therapists parts listed many said they wished clients would cancel and one comment said nothing sexual is happening i want the context of the last one

Therapists know that sex is a major source of anxiety and wish their patients would talk about that more.

susannahsays · Mar 27, 2019 at 06:34 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I am grading. I increasingly feel students and I do not speak the same language. I say “name a battle of the Roman civil wars” and they give me names of politicians. I say “name one of the three tactical stages of development in the Roman army” and they name officer positions in the army.

This is pure speculation, but I think they may be attempting to win you over by displaying that although they don't know the answer to the question, they know unrelated trivia. The intention might be to make you think they must have paid attention in class or studied if they know politician names or officer positions.

Of course, I could be wrong. I can't say I've ever had the balls to attempt this sort of maneuver. But I do know how the minds of my confederates work, and I also know some professors are very eager to award points wherever they can find an excuse to do so.

susannahsays · Mar 27, 2019 at 06:36 PM

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Originally Posted by BlessedCheeseMaker

i was stunned to find a photo from a T training session that had therapists parts listed a few said they wished clients would cancel or go away and one comment said nothing sexual is happening i want the context of the last one

Maybe it has to do with client erotic transference.

atisketatasket · Mar 27, 2019 at 06:39 PM

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Originally Posted by susannahsays

This is pure speculation, but I think they may be attempting to win you over by displaying that although they don't know the answer to the question, they know unrelated trivia. The intention might be to make you think they must have paid attention in class or studied if they know politician names or officer positions.

Of course, I could be wrong. I can't say I've ever had the balls to attempt this sort of maneuver. But I do know how the minds of my confederates work, and I also know some professors are very eager to award points wherever they can find an excuse to do so.

That is totally possible.

An astonishing number do seem to think the acquisition of knowledge = acquisition of trivia. College as training to go on Jeopardy!

MobiusPsyche · Mar 27, 2019 at 06:40 PM

Yay! They accepted my offer! Moving 20 minutes closer to work.

Mar 27, 2019 at 06:41 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Seeing T again tomorrow (please don't judge me).

No judgement here either. There were times when I really wished I could see L 5 days in a row....

Mar 27, 2019 at 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by susannahsays

Maybe it has to do with client erotic transference.

i didnt think of that.

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LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,744 (SuperPoster!) 9 74.9k hugs given	Mar 27, 2019 at 06:07 PM #363 Seeing T again tomorrow (please don't judge me).

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