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Lrad, do you have ideas in mind if you were to take a guess?
I have no idea, really, since he discloses so little, but the idea of having intimacy needs fulfilled at a safe distance sure resonates for me in my own work. Maybe thatís why he does it too. I have told my T that I sometimes feel like Iím being selfish in a way in my work because Iím fulfilled by the interactions I have with people who are suffering. I assume he feels fulfilled by his job also, and has told me that at least indirectly. Maybe Iíll try bringing this up with him and see where it goes.
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yes I've asked him this question before and he answered it for me
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I never asked any of my t's. With former T, I think it was the process of her going through some trauma (natural disaster) and the process of therapy itself that made her change careers. With current T, I have no idea. I do know of some of the other jobs she's had and they've been all over the place, working at Disneyland, being an editor, working in a bank, etc. HUGS Kit
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I have not asked. But she must have known that's what she wanted to do pretty early on because I think she must have gone straight from her undergrad to graduate school considering how long she has been practicing and how old she is.
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The ones I saw... I'd say many of them were lured by the promise of tightly controlled relationships conducted in private. There are no witnesses. If it goes badly, the client can be eliminated and quickly replaced. Down the memory hole. And the relationships are structured such that the therapist is built up and becomes the center of attention. This is probably irresistible for some who feel powerless or inferior. It's all so creepy.

eta: By "some who feel powerless or inferior" I mean therapists.

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I haven't asked current t. Old t was abused and became a t to help other abuse victims.
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And the relationships are structured such that the therapist is built up and becomes the center of attention. This is probably irresistible for some who feel powerless or inferior.
That was me, somewhat. I had all different parts, but...one of my primary patterns was to be helpless but be dependent on a stronger other who would protect me and somehow rescue me. Being preoccupied with the stronger, more important other kept me from experiencing feelings of depression.

That's an oversimplification, but my T didn't engage in my pattern, which is one reason I felt distress from the therapy, falling into feelings of hopelessness.

His not fufilling those needs sort of forced me to change.
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Mine said because he likes solving puzzles lol
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Mine had cruddy parents, I think.
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Alcohol issues in the family and because she wanted to help people! So she said anyway. I remember asking her when I first started seeing her
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