[Merope]

have you ever said something in a session that you later agonized over? i don't mean anything big or something that you are ashamed of...just a slip of the tongue that made T blink at you without acknowledging what you just said because it was so silly.

This happened to me a couple of weeks ago. I don't want to post exactly what I said, but it was something akin to "if you (as opposed to anyone else) gave me pebbles for dinner, I'd probably eat them."

Kind of revealing on the attachment front. Makes me feel uneasy. Ugh, stupid no filter mouth.

[susannahsays]

The therapist never ignores stuff I say. If I say something dumb, she pretty much immediately jumps on it. Sometimes she'll let it slide for one or two questions, then bam! All of a sudden she's addressing it.

The last really silly thing I remember saying was this. I came in and she said she had to put some eyedrops in her eyes because they were really red or something. I said maybe it was from all the weed she had been smoking. She told me in an exasperated voice that she doesn't smoke weed and that it makes her paranoid.

Later we were talking about some other stuff, and I said something about how sometimes things just come out of my mouth. She asked me if I meant like with the weed comment.

I did not agonize. I did wonder what she got paranoid about, though.

[ElectricManatee]

Wait wait wait. If she doesn't smoke weed, how does she know that it makes her paranoid? I bet she's an edibles gal, and she's responding to the letter of the accusation, not the spirit...

[SlumberKitty]

Yup, I've done stuff like that plenty of times. Said something and then wanted to just melt away in embarrassment. Made me feel uneasy too but eventually I got over it.

[susannahsays]

Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

Wait wait wait. If she doesn't smoke weed, how does she know that it makes her paranoid? I bet she's an edibles gal, and she's responding to the letter of the accusation, not the spirit...

No, she said she had tried it before when she was younger and didn't like it because it made her paranoid.

Edit: Although now, an accusation about her consuming edibles will probably leave my mouth at some point. I hold you responsible.

[Xynesthesia2]

Not in session but via email when I was drunk, many times. Much worse things than just silly or a bit out of context. Sometimes it was simply expressing momentary mood in more depth than I would normally intend. I knew it was related to my drinking and I often felt very ashamed and disturbed the day after, sometimes apologized when it was truly too much. We discussed some of those email comments with the Ts in session but most of them never came up as I was hiding my drinking a lot and it never, ever happened sober. I did sometimes make mildly sarcastic comments though, just like I do in everyday life, but that was never an issue.

If you feel rattled about some comments and regret them, perhaps one way of using it for good is to think about what motivated them in the moment.

[darkside8]

Originally Posted by susannahsays

The therapist never ignores stuff I say. If I say something dumb, she pretty much immediately jumps on it. Sometimes she'll let it slide for one or two questions, then bam! All of a sudden she's addressing it.

The last really silly thing I remember saying was this. I came in and she said she had to put some eyedrops in her eyes because they were really red or something. I said maybe it was from all the weed she had been smoking. She told me in an exasperated voice that she doesn't smoke weed and that it makes her paranoid.

Later we were talking about some other stuff, and I said something about how sometimes things just come out of my mouth. She asked me if I meant like with the weed comment.

I did not agonize. I did wonder what she got paranoid about, though.

I said maybe it was from all the weed she had been smoking. - can’t stop laughing!!!