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About a 30 minute solo presentation then Q & A. I get terrible anxiety when I have to do these things. Blushing and shaking and stuttering and all that. I've tried different ways of preparing/presenting and nothing helps.
I liked Maxwell Maltz book Psychocybernetics. It sounds simple to say, but one of the things he suggested was to imagine it all out in your head bit by bit. Perhaps you can you film yourself doing the presentation, then watch it back to see where you could improve? Can you take a transitional object with you and keep it in your pocket?
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About a 30 minute solo presentation then Q & A. I get terrible anxiety when I have to do these things. Blushing and shaking and stuttering and all that. I've tried different ways of preparing/presenting and nothing helps.
Good luck on your presentation. When it's time for the Q & A, ask if there are any questions with your palms down. It's a subconscious signal that you aren't open to receiving questions. It's a little trick I used during uni that I found helpful. HUGS Kit
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I liked Maxwell Maltz book Psychocybernetics. It sounds simple to say, but one of the things he suggested was to imagine it all out in your head bit by bit. Perhaps you can you film yourself doing the presentation, then watch it back to see where you could improve? Can you take a transitional object with you and keep it in your pocket?
Thanks, I'll check that book out. I have tried making videos of myself presenting before. I don't think a transitional object would do much for me.

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Thanks. I actually want them to ask questions, it's bad if they don't. My hope is to get them all talking to each other during the Q&A so I can hyperventilate while they're distracted.
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Thanks, I'll check that book out. I have tried making videos of myself presenting before. I don't think a transitional object would do much for me.


Thanks. I actually want them to ask questions, it's bad if they don't. My hope is to get them all talking to each other during the Q&A so I can hyperventilate while they're distracted.
Pre therapy I read a lot of self help books. I bought how to win friends and influence people and surprising it helped me learn how to talk to people. When my anxiety was at it's worst at around 16, even talking on the phone was hard for me. The authour Dale Carnegie also wrote one specifically about public speaking which I have. a quick google brought up the title : How to Develop Self-Confidence & Influence People by Public Speaking.

Also perhaps you can start small? Could you give the presentation to a few family members first so you could practice with an audience?
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My friends had opera tickets to see Idomeneo, thinking I should I have gone with them now. From google:

Cretan king Idomeneo who, when returning from the Trojan war and his life threatened, he promises god Neptune that he will sacrifice to him the first person he meets on land. But it is actually his own son Idamante.
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hihi coucharoonios. another super busy day at work today. i'm on lunch now for another few minutes anyway. hugs, headnods and sparkles all around as wanted.
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hihi coucharoonios. another super busy day at work today. i'm on lunch now for another few minutes anyway. hugs, headnods and sparkles all around as wanted.
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Pre therapy I read a lot of self help books. I bought how to win friends and influence people and surprising it helped me learn how to talk to people. When my anxiety was at it's worst at around 16, even talking on the phone was hard for me. The authour Dale Carnegie also wrote one specifically about public speaking which I have. a quick google brought up the title : How to Develop Self-Confidence & Influence People by Public Speaking.

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Thanks, I will probably check out that book. May do the practice presentation to family, we'll see. Sometimes that just feels fake to me.
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Electric Manatee, it was SO delicious. The recipe went into my Soup, Beautiful Soup folder so that I can make it again. I even heated the leftovers some for late breakfast this morning.
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Evening, Couch.

I'm taking a break from pottery for a while. Need to find something that helps me chill out rather than frustrating me.
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