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Grand Magnate
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#21
I sent her a link to one of my posts once. I may have referenced the forum in passing before, but it's not as if it's ever come up as a topic of conversation in and of itself. I don't remember her expressing any opinion of it.
I doubt she noted my username from the post I sent her and then spent time reading through my other comments and posts. But if she had, I wouldn't care. I'm the same person here that I am in session with the same opinions, although I might express them better in written form. I don't think she'd be shocked by anything I've said. __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold |
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#22
My very next visit after I'd started posting here, saying things that my t would be able to identify me by, my t said something about a pair of warm fuzzy socks.
The timing was just so odd. I thought uh-oh, and and Then I realized that a) it is pretty unlikely that she'd read here so it was most probably a coincidence, and b) if she did/does, that's her business and not mine, as what I choose to post is my business. So there's no need to even mention it. (Well, and c) on the VERY VERY off chance that she did read and was hinting at my username, best to just come right out and say it. I don't really do hints.) __________________ Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine) |
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Grand Magnate
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#23
PC has played a significant role in changing how I see and work with T so I am wanting to bring it up. Not sure how it will go over, not that he has ever been negitive or discouraging with me. I know good and well at some point in his office or in an email I am going to call him T and he is going to look at me all funny. So I appreciate everyone’s feedback.
I wouldn’t mind him seeing what I post but I would feel really insecure about it until he told me his thoughts. __________________ There’s been many a crooked path that has landed me here Tired, broken and wearing rags Wild eyed with fear -Blackmoores Night |
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#25
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I think Ts forget that they can consult with colleagues and seek supervision, but we as clients are really isolated in this work. Why shouldn't we have a place to consult? Whatever your therapist thinks, know that their response is a reflection of them, not you. |
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#26
No way! I get paranoid though that he reads what I write. We have some topics we stalemate over discussing. Like WarmFuzzySocks, he once seemed to have read what I wrote. Meanwhile, he once wrote about me on Reddit Psychotherapy a really very loving post in a way, and illuminating to read BUT kind of a betrayal too. Also making it clear how he is a little full of himself , as if clients are too out of it to read that subreddit that t never crossed his mind. Social media is a touchy subject after that.
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#27
Forgot to mention that my T keeps referring to PC as a "listserv," which is basically something from the '90s, maybe early 2000s? (Maybe they still exist? Not sure.) He finally corrected himself the other day, and was like "I know, it's not a listserv," and I was like, "Forum!"
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#29
I've mentioned PC as "a forum". I've sometimes shared responses I've gotten here, without links to threads. Reddit too, though I'll say it's Reddit.
She hasn't given any opinion, and she knows I derive a lot of support from online communities, that I don't differentiate between "online friends" and "offline friends". During some cultural competency ruptures, I've quoted people here by initials. We came to a compromise and I'm not struggling as much with that particular aspect of me anymore. She's really busy, so I'm not worried she'll look me up. She doesn't have the time, and even if she did, it's clear she rather not do work related matters, and prefers to spend time with her friends and loved ones. |
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#30
I really don't think 99% of clients are as recognizable to therapists as it may seem. I seriously doubt most therapists would be able to pick any client out from the posts. I could have signed my name and the ones I hired would not have recognized me.
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#31
I am sure if my T got on here he would know which one I was... but that would be fine by me... it’s not like I am over here bashing him all the time :ROFL: everyone knows what a hard time I have with him. Oddly enough I worry more about protecting his privacy on here. And I think anything that saves him from seeing my name in his email even one less time a week is good by him! He would not totally agree.
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#32
How the couch isn’t a sticky at this point is beyond me ... much love to everyone , especially- Stopdog
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#33
I've mentioned it before but not by name
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#34
T knows I'm on some mental health forums but not the names or my usernames.
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#35
My T knows I'm part of at least one online mental health/illness community, but not where or my username or anything (nor would I tell her). Mostly she thinks it's good to have somewhere to be able to talk and knows that it does help with some loneliness/isolation.
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#36
My T knows I'm on a psychology forum but didn't have much to say about it and I didn't go into details.
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Grand Poohbah
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#37
I have mentioned as in I heard this or that here to get her opinion but not mentioned the name just said a forum. She doesnt like it.
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#38
Both my psychiatrist and therapist know I've written for PC and post on the message board. Both have read my articles. I discuss my message board posts with them. It's not a deep dark secret, especially since I have articles published on subjects I post about.
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