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Default Apr 11, 2019 at 12:02 PM
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Therapy is work and I think they should dress appropriately, but do what they want in their down time. If it was a woman, I wouldn't want to see excess cleavage and skin. Same with a man- no ripped jeans/ shorts etc.

I like R's semi formal style. He always wears a shirt with or without a jumper, and never jeans. I've seen him dress down in his wife's photos on facebook, and that was like a woah moment.

I have two wardrobes. One formal dresses, skirts. Stuff that would be okay at an interview/ a hospital ward. I wouldn't be able to take him seriously if he wore slogan/band/battlestar galactica T shirts and sweatpants - oh wait that's scruffy me.

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Default Apr 11, 2019 at 02:33 PM
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i've always wondered if this is it just me, but have you ever noticed how T's seem to wear scarfs a lot?


both my Ts ( one male and the other female) seemed to like to accessorise their outfits with a stylish scarf of some sort. not sure if that was too challenge my own beliefs about my sense (lack) of style or to reassure me that they would remain toasty warm in our session


Yes I have noticed this too- the scarf brigade
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Default Apr 11, 2019 at 02:38 PM
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Maybe they spray scent on their scarves so they can subtly protect their noses when clients fart.
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Default Apr 11, 2019 at 02:39 PM
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Maybe they spray scent on their scarves so they can subtly protect their noses when clients fart.


How should a T dress?How should a T dress?How should a T dress?How should a T dress? or to hide the smell when they fart or shart
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Default Apr 11, 2019 at 03:09 PM
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I certainly hope they aren't sharting.

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Yes I have noticed this too- the scarf brigade
Both of mine very rarely wear a scarf.. I on the other hand wear a lot of scarves.

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How should a T dress?How should a T dress?How should a T dress?How should a T dress? or to hide the smell when they fart or shart
hahahahaha!!

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Default Apr 11, 2019 at 04:05 PM
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I went to a t once and she was dressed very inappropriately! A dress that was far too tight and revealing. I didn’t feel comfortable and never went back
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Default Apr 11, 2019 at 04:39 PM
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For a long time T only wore professional dresses. For about a year she worked one day a week at a local college. She was asked to no longer wear skirts because some of the boys were distracted by it. Her dresses were always below the knee so when she sat down it went to her knees.

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Default Apr 11, 2019 at 04:44 PM
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This is, to me, more of just one more way to control women by judging/criticizing/blaming them for what they wear.

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Default Apr 11, 2019 at 05:02 PM
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"Boys" in college really need to grow the f up.

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This is, to me, more of just one more way to control women by judging/criticizing/blaming them for what they wear.

I agree. She worked at a very well known, expensive college. One where most families are very wealthy. So it was all about making sure the kids were happy and, therefore, the parents were happy. T was flabbergasted because she was over 60 years old and dressed and appeared her age.

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Default Apr 12, 2019 at 05:05 AM
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There are no should's here. A T is entitled to dress however they want. It seems far-fetched to speculate that any T would choose their attire to cater to any client's desires. Personal taste, expression of their quirks or personality, yes. But dress to satisfy any clients expectations? That's absurd.

Likewise, clients can wear whatever they want. IF a client isn't happy with the way their T dresses, nothing stops them from shopping for another T.

A therapy relationship isn't about changing the therapist to how we want them to be or dictate to them what they ought to wear.
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Default Apr 12, 2019 at 08:48 AM
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I'm not much into "shoulds" about other people's attire. I have my personal druthers, and perhaps even I'd be turned off by the attire of a therapist perhaps, but that doesn't mean the therapist "should" dress any differently for me. That means I would probably need to find a different therapist who fit my personal druthers. I've never personally run into a therapist whose attire even crossed my mind as an issue though, so I'm not even certain what that line of "Nope. Can't look at that and bare my soul" is. LOL.

I'm assuming therapists who work for a larger organization probably have some sort a dress code agreed to by their larger employer. Those in independent practice can dress as they wish.
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Default Apr 12, 2019 at 08:53 AM
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My T wore shorts and sandals one day and it threw me right off, but I think shorts and sandals look terrible on men in general. I just tried not to look at his feet that day (which I usually did). Now I lie on the couch so he could be wearing a clown nose all session and I wouldn't even notice.
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Default Apr 12, 2019 at 11:44 AM
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They should probably wear clothes.
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Default Apr 12, 2019 at 12:34 PM
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They should dress true to themselfs. Although I'd prefer if they dressed all in black and blend into the background.

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