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Old 04-15-2019, 12:22 PM #11
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So sorry, Kit. The tune is slightly different, but I am in a similar boat. Sickness and Easter break combined. Sending hugs, and hoping you can get an appointment soon.
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I just talked to the receptionist at my therapist's office and she can't see me until May the 6th. That's going to be a long time for me to not have seen her. This sucks. I'm really struggling with my emotions to try to keep them from not drowning me. I feel like crying. Kit
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So sorry, Kit. The tune is slightly different, but I am in a similar boat. Sickness and Easter break combined. Sending hugs, and hoping you can get an appointment soon.
Sorry you are in a similar boat. HUGS Kit
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kit-her schedule SUCKS. There is no way she can see you sooner? Does she only see all her patients on a monthly basis? I couldn’t handle that. I hope you can stay safe and not SH.
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I think your therapist is borderline unethical for seeing you so inconsistently. I don't mean for cancelling due to this family emergency - obviously, things happen sometimes. I mean that it's horrible that she thinks it's ok to basically use you to fill the gaps in her schedule - because that's what's happening. She does not actually have room for you on her caseload, and should not have taken you on. Therapists should not see clients they cannot see on a consistent basis (when the client wants to be seen consistently).
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Oh no, that's a long time to get to see T, SlumberKitty.

Your feelings are perfectly valid though, as I would feel the same. Regarding accountability - maybe you could use psychcentral as your accountability buddy instead of T?

And yes, keep looking for and interviewing other Ts. Seeing T from once to three times a month is rough..

Hang in there.
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Maybe you could interview some alternative therapists in the meantime.

I feel like sending this therapist a strongly worded missive.
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I think your therapist is borderline unethical for seeing you so inconsistently. I don't mean for cancelling due to this family emergency - obviously, things happen sometimes. I mean that it's horrible that she thinks it's ok to basically use you to fill the gaps in her schedule - because that's what's happening. She does not actually have room for you on her caseload, and should not have taken you on. Therapists should not see clients they cannot see on a consistent basis (when the client wants to be seen consistently).
I hadn't thought of it like that before. I would prefer to be seen every week or every other week. But that's not worked out with this T.
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I'm so sorry, that is such a long time on top of such a long time.
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Oh wow... I agree so strongly with Susannahsays re: your T being unethical. She knows your struggling with self harm, and expects you to go months between appointments?

I'm kind of peeved at her on your behalf.

You deserve better!!! And, I agree... emergencies happen... but just like she expects flexibility when she has an emergency and has to cancel with short notice, she should also *give* flexibility to reschedule you, especially given what you're dealing with, so that you don't end up having to wait another month b/c of her schedule. To me, it would be appropriate for her to work an extra hour, for example, to fit you in on a day sooner... given that your appointment disappeared through no fault of your own.

Ugh, I'm so so sorry. Hang in there. (And if you're up for it, definitely consider looking around at the other therapists - it sounds like there aren't a lot of good options by you, but just in case you manage to find one hiding somewhere nearby!)

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