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Old 04-15-2019, 02:07 PM #21
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I just talked to the receptionist at my therapist's office and she can't see me until May the 6th. That's going to be a long time for me to not have seen her. This sucks. I'm really struggling with my emotions to try to keep them from not drowning me. I feel like crying. Kit
That just doesn't seem like enough care, or even responsible practice.
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Definitely look for a new therapist...
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You deserve so much better sh is very hard and you need a therapist that is way more avalible to you. I struggle with sh and it's very hard to go a month between sessions. May 6th is a very long time and i would phone her and let her know you need to see her soon or find another therapist. Hugs
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Iím so sorry!!!!

Yes to what everyone else said!!!!

I canít imagine once a month appointments are nearly enough to support what you are going through. If she canít give you what you need, itís a great time to look for someone who can.
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I'm so sorry, Kit. Ex-MC used to have to cancel often at the last minute because of his wife, so I understand how difficult it is. Would it be possible for you to schedule more than one appointment at a time so you could be seen more frequently? Or could you maybe find another T to see in the off weeks? Even if they don't have the best Psychology Today profile, they could still be pretty good--some T's are better at those than others. And many aren't listed on there, so it might be good to just do a google search with you area and "therapists" or something like that. Hugs...
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After a therapist cancelled twice on me I stopped going. They need to be available and consistent. Would you keep going to a hair dresser or dentist or doctor who kept cancelling on you?
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You are not whining at all. Your sense of abandonment is valid and well founded. I am pleased though that you have the empathy to understand why this particular appointment was canceled ; that your therapist's hands were tied. However this doesn't negate the fact that it seems unfair.

Like you I only see my therapist on average of once a month. I don't find anything strange with that all. In fact I will go so far as to say it is pretty normal.

What I do want to concentrate on however is the poor manner in which the missed appointment was handled. I am all for supporting the need for a therapist to have their own work life balance however, that shouldn't come at the cost of their client's emotional health. I believe then that a therapist or psychiatrist for that matter has an obligation to ensure that care remains available. As such, you should have been advised by either her or her office of what arrangements to that end have been put in place. Maybe it is making another professional in the clinic available or otherwise on call in the case you or another client be in need. You should also have been given instructions for what to do in an emergency - even if those instructions are to present at a hospital.

Yes, you were let down.
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We care about you. You made the commitment to feel good about yourself as well as for your t.
Sometimes other people are unreasonable - absolutely - but with support we keep our commitments to our healing. Let us care and support you if you can .
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We care about you. You made the commitment to feel good about yourself as well as for your t.
Sometimes other people are unreasonable - absolutely - but with support we keep our commitments to our healing. Let us care and support you if you can .
Wow. Thank you saidso. Kit
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so because she has a family emergency you're going to lash out & hurt yourself? well that will teach her!
shame on her for having to deal with trauma in her own life in a safe way! I read her so often that we want the best for out "t's" except for when we don't.

so stop the self harm for a few more days. you can do that..for yourself, not for her because you didn't give it up for her, but really for lent, right? she didn't just give up on YOU..she had a family crisis..maybe an illness, death, etc. you don't know. and honestly it's none of your business...but she had to cancel..

what if she didn't, but had your session and wasn't there "mentally?" you would complain about it....probably she cancelled for more then you. therapists have lives..people get sick, cars break down, people get sick, family issues happen far away..just like for us. and they have to cancel. do you ever cancel appt's for things or are you always 100% spot on for everything??? give it thought
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